Oh sweetie. I'm so sorry it has come to this. How difficult this all must be for you. On the other hand, miracles do happen so I'll keep praying for one for her.Originally Posted by Duchess15
The transplant is off because she would never survive the operation. Her lungs are shot, her liver is shot and her kidneys are failing.
They will keep seeing if the steroids will help, but at some point, when it can't reverse the damage, the time has come to let her go. They said it would take a miracle for her to recover.
I now I have to start looking for all the papers. I need to have them ready if and when the time comes.
I'm sure that was a hard decision, that was not made lightly. I hope my children have that courage if I am ever in a bad position.Originally Posted by Duchess15
We just informed the doctor about the DNR. We do not want her to suffer in any way. I don't know what I'll do without her.
She is still on the respirator so that is why she can't talk, right? How are her independent breathing trials going?Originally Posted by Duchess15
We told the doctors to keep doing what they have, but if her heart stops, they will not revive her. I think if it gives out, she has fought a good fight, and I want her to be able to rest in peace. It would be selfish and unfair to her to make her struggle even more.
She can't talk at this time. However, sometimes she shakes her head if she is alert. I'm hoping that a couple of friends tonight will be able to get her to respond a bit.
I want to tell her it is ok if she is getting tired of fighting. I want her to know that we will miss her so much, but we will be ok and will never ever forget her.
You will know when it's time to let go and tell her it's ok to pass over. I don't envy you this situation one bit. Maybe you could tell her that if she wants to fight this, you'll be right there fighting with her. But if she is tired of fighting, you understand and it is ok.
I'm thinking about you. Don't forget to take care of yourself.