I am so sorry to hear. {{hugs}}.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your father loved you very much and probably knew it would not please you to grant his last wish. Maybe he wanted his family to realize that even though they were not good to him, he would show them you are not like them but a better person.Originally Posted by Duchess15
God...I am so angry right now. My dad's last wish be that I pay for his family to come down and it is the last thing they deserve after basically saying that they would have disowned him had they known something about him.
I will not dishonor his wish, but I do not agree with it, nor am I happy. These people are the least who deserve it and will make me despise them even more because I have to do it.
Now, they can truly not say that I have never done anything for them.
I am the one who has lost my whole family, yet, somehow I feel as if I am still paying the price for a family who is so deceitful that it is pathetic.
Oh Sabrina, I am so sorry I missed this. Laurie took the words out of my mouth.Originally Posted by LDG
Sabrina, I am so sorry sweetie.He knows how loved he was, and you did do everything you could. I'm glad he passed peacefully. I'm sorry you feel badly he passed while you were not in the room, but at least you were there with him. He knows.
He's with your mom now, sweetie, and they're both sending you all of their love.
I just want you to know you're in my thoughts and prayers right now loveOriginally Posted by Duchess15
I'm so stressed out with everything I have to do. I just booked flights for one family and it will cost me $2500.
The others are still working out the details and even saying bad things about my dad - even now, but I have good friend who knows how to handle people and basically put them in their place. He made it painfully clear that in no way am I to cater to any of their needs.
I think paying for them is quite enough and more than they deserve.
I still have to find out how much I owe the funeral home and if I have to pay it all up front since he did pre-arrange it.
You know...somehow this is not how I quite imagined it. At least I know there is an end in sight and I will finally be able to breathe once the toxicity clears out.
I will honor my dad's wish because that is who I am. I think that had he known what they were saying about him - he would not have been so generous.
I keep losing weight because the stress just keeps adding and adding.
I hope this doesn't happen because a funeral is not the place for confrontationsOriginally Posted by Duchess15
I have good friend who knows how to handle people and basically put them in their place.
Trust me - he knows how to handle people. He was able to clear things up through emails. Visitation went well. I basically kept away from his family and engaged with all his friends and coworkers. Afterall, I was the hostess so I was all over the place. I took the high road and was very nice to them. I know that there is an end in sight.Originally Posted by Rosiemac
I hope this doesn't happen because a funeral is not the place for confrontations
It takes a bigger person to walk away if things get heated.
Originally Posted by Duchess15
Trust me - he knows how to handle people. He was able to clear things up through emails. Visitation went well. I basically kept away from his family and engaged with all his friends and coworkers. Afterall, I was the hostess so I was all over the place. I took the high road and was very nice to them. I know that there is an end in sight.
Things are going ok because they are not staying at my house. At least I have comfort in that.
The funeral will be tomorrow at 2pm.