As I read this I thought 'who's writing this ' when I saw I said oh of course. I'm with you.Absolutely. You have dibs on top of dibs on top of dibs. Her hurt pride is nothing compared to your loss. I did NOT EVER mean to imply that in any way, shape or form. I still, personally, want to do this woman great and permanent physical harm. Against my nature, but I'm so emotionally invested here that I would be perfectly happy to kick her, repeatedly. Not constructive, not conducive to furthering anything at all. What I mostly want is to support and assist you with whatever decision you make.
~and a tiny voice whispers~ and kick her. square in the fanny.