I think I got lucky too. My DH's dad stayed home for several years to take care of the kids, cook, and take care of the house while his wife (DH's mom) worked. So my DH was able to see a man doing this sort of thing. Now I usually have to ask DH to help with something, but he usually does it. We have certain jobs that are always his (mowing the lawn, taking out the trash) and certain jobs that are always mine (feeding the cats, cleaning the litter, cleaning the bathroom), but then sometimes we take turns doing things (such as vacuuming, doing dishes, or cooking). It normally helps if I ask him to help in advance (i.e. "Tomorrow morning I'm going to clean the bathroom. While I'm doing that, would you please vaccuum upstairs?") Then he might need a couple reminders.