I agree. The people you see with lots of gifts are the more active members who will naturally be closer with the other active members. We aren't trying to leave anyone out.
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vbPlaza gift etiquette questions
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It hadn't occurred to me that we could buy ourselves "gifts" tooOriginally Posted by Jenny82
I would do that too if I saw something I really wanted. So you don't have to wait for someone else to buy you something.
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You can buy yourself gifts too.Originally Posted by catsallover
It hadn't occurred to me that we could buy ourselves "gifts" tooI just assumed that all the gifts were from someone else...Maybe I'll take a look around....
I don't think it was a complaint, just an observation or a concern. I know I'm certainly not complaining... I haven't been active on TCS for ages so it's my fault for not knowing the pickle joke, etc. Lol!
I will say this has motivated me to become more active here - those gifts are cute and I wanna buy me a heart, lol! And, obviously, gift some people who have been so sweet to me!
I will say this has motivated me to become more active here - those gifts are cute and I wanna buy me a heart, lol! And, obviously, gift some people who have been so sweet to me!
I don't feel the need to reciprocate but I do like to at least thank the person for the gift.
I've been having a blast giving out gifts. I agree with you Gingersmom that there are not so much clique's as there are folks that know each other better. I know I spend a great deal of time in Paws & Reflect having fun as Bijou and Mika. A lot of the regulars there have been kidding around as their kitties for a long time now and come back every day, 2-3 or more times a day and have gotten to know each other well. We have new folks joining in and they are happily welcomed - some stick around, others (for whatever their personal reasons) post a couple posts and are gone. There is no way we can get to know them better if they don't stick around, post responses and get into the fun of that forum. I know a lot of the gifts I've given have been from Bijou and Mika to the kitties in that forum.
I also bought gifts that I liked for myself - I love golf and coffee - I bought them both for myself. (Because Ryan knows one golf ball won't last very long in a game of golf - sometimes not even past the first hole if there is lots of bushes and trees - he gave me another as you can see.)
This isn't meant to be a popularity contest - just lots of fun. I could get upset and think nobody likes me either because I didn't get a lot of gifts but I don't.
By all means - buy yourselves gifts if you want to - that's wonderful. Be good to yourself.
I've been having a blast giving out gifts. I agree with you Gingersmom that there are not so much clique's as there are folks that know each other better. I know I spend a great deal of time in Paws & Reflect having fun as Bijou and Mika. A lot of the regulars there have been kidding around as their kitties for a long time now and come back every day, 2-3 or more times a day and have gotten to know each other well. We have new folks joining in and they are happily welcomed - some stick around, others (for whatever their personal reasons) post a couple posts and are gone. There is no way we can get to know them better if they don't stick around, post responses and get into the fun of that forum. I know a lot of the gifts I've given have been from Bijou and Mika to the kitties in that forum.
I also bought gifts that I liked for myself - I love golf and coffee - I bought them both for myself. (Because Ryan knows one golf ball won't last very long in a game of golf - sometimes not even past the first hole if there is lots of bushes and trees - he gave me another as you can see.)
This isn't meant to be a popularity contest - just lots of fun. I could get upset and think nobody likes me either because I didn't get a lot of gifts but I don't.
By all means - buy yourselves gifts if you want to - that's wonderful. Be good to yourself.
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You only need 212 points for a gift, so you do have enough to send some.
The gift system is only a little over a week old. As more members accumulate more points, more gifts will be given out and many people will have 10-15 gifts near their names. Browse the log in the vbPlaza, and you will see many members giving gifts to people outside their "clique". Yes, some members will always have more than others either because they are very visible members, or they help other members out a lot. It's like that in real life also.
Thank you for pointing out that some of the gifts have been purchased by the member for themselves.
I don't think any of us listed think of ourselves as an "inner circle". We're here because of all of you. It's the members that make the site special.
Excellent point!
Sure!! Why not send something to someone?? It could brighten their day!
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Originally Posted by catsallover
It hadn't occurred to me that we could buy ourselves "gifts" tooI just assumed that all the gifts were from someone else...Maybe I'll take a look around....
I have a feeling that you will both be getting gifts from people now!
If I give a gift or receive one I think that a thank you PM is all that's in order. Points can be precious, and some members, even though it looks like they have plenty, could be savings up for one of the bigger ticket items in the vPlaza.
A virtual hug is sometimes nice too.
That's a gift in and of itself!
A virtual hug is sometimes nice too.
Just the other day I sent a present to a member who doesn't post much anymore and didn't have any gifts, but I remembered her as being one of the first people on TCS that "accepted" me when I first started posting last year (It felt like it took AGESOriginally Posted by AbbysMom
Sure!! Why not send something to someone?? It could brighten their day!
I just send a thank you PM. I don't expect anyone to buy me a gift.
I received my Bear, and the points to buy my ribbon as a gift from a friend. I surely don't post enough to gather lots of points (I'm a picky topic-responder, lol) and my good friend was kind enough to include me. But, I know her from outside of TCS, and I don't have other "friends" on here. But that is ok.
I agree with gingersmom...you can change where you stand by throwing yourself out there and getting more involved.
Or, just post as much as Susie (I may not respond often, but I do read, lol).
Btw, I think sending a nice thank you PM should suffice. It's nice to give, but it's also nice when you know it was appreciated.
I agree with gingersmom...you can change where you stand by throwing yourself out there and getting more involved.
Or, just post as much as Susie (I may not respond often, but I do read, lol).
Btw, I think sending a nice thank you PM should suffice. It's nice to give, but it's also nice when you know it was appreciated.
I send gifts back if the person is overly sweet to me... Somtimes when your having a bad day you need to get a gift and resiprocate
I'm with the thank you note people - that has always been the correct reply to a gift.
Besides the traditional ettiquette response, it would be a ridiculous standard to hold some else to - not everyone will have the same amount of points or be able to reciprocate immediately. After all, some people don't post as often as others, some post more, some of us rack up extra points by sleepwalking...
Besides the traditional ettiquette response, it would be a ridiculous standard to hold some else to - not everyone will have the same amount of points or be able to reciprocate immediately. After all, some people don't post as often as others, some post more, some of us rack up extra points by sleepwalking...
That's too funny!
But, seriously, you're right, it is hard to hold people to that standard.
That reminds me, I still have to write thank you notes for wedding presents.
No, I don't think it's necessary to reciprocate, but that shouldn't stop a person from giving a gift to a person from whom they received one. And certainly a thank you PM is in order.
I voted no because i don't give to receive, and i love giving
I think I'm going to go send myself a present. Something colourful, and silly.
Well.....Maybe later. Seems they are out of stock right now.
That's not necessary (and I really wasn't trying to "hit" on youOriginally Posted by silentNate
I only just got my first gift and felt I should reciprocate but the shop was sold out
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That is my thought ...
