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Update---and need encouragement today!!
Ok, new development. Today is day #14 post-neuter and move to the indoors of Shortstack.
Wurp (old grouch) has now taken to sitting directly outside the bedroom door where Shortstack (2 yr old newly neutered) is spending his separation time. This morning, Wurp began beating the crap out of the bedroom door and hissed at it! There is a tiny gap, maybe one inch, under the door, they can't get their paws all the way under it though, because of thicker carpeting in that bedroom, but I think they can see each other's movement and smell each other really well. Which is actually my intent.
I know that Shortstack gets up against the other side of the door when Wurp is doing this, because I hear him bop the door back on the other side, and if I open the door he is up against it in the corner near the hinges. If I observe from a distance (of course all I can see on this side is Wurp) he sits flicking the tip of his tail and then proceeds to smack the door repeatedly and yowls. It's that "your butt is mine" kind of yowl/growl. This morning he hissed at the door. It was one of those hilarious, yet not-at-all-in-reality funny moments. I walked back there and said "just what are you boys up to?" and Wurp looked at me like "I didn't do nothing!!" and Shortstack went meeuurp?? on the other side of the door like "who, me?? Nothing!".
What has brought this on? I am so confused, I swear Wurp can hold a grudge like nobody's business. I don't think I've ever had a cat like him. Everybody was so calm doing the site-swapping, minding their own business....now this. Wurp has always known he was back there, he just never sat and fumed this much. It was usually just a few minutes, then he moved on, and didn't go back to that door unless it was just in passing.
Meanwhile, our senior lady is preparing to cross the bridge. She is going downhill rapidly. She rarely gets up, she drinks water and I have been giving her milk, she drinks a lap or two, but otherwise refusing food. No poop in about four days. Still peeing. I've had to wash her back legs a few times because she pees where she is laying. We've taken her to the vet but basically there isn't anything they can offer except "the" shot. I would have already taken her for "the" shot, but this is my hubby's cat (19 years old) and I am leaving it up to him. He says he can't, not yet. I'm doing my best to encourage it but I cannot be judgmental or pushy with this. She has always been his baby. My nerves are wracked because I'm a "no suffering" kind of pet parent, and I feel even more horrible every time I bring it up to him. Add to that, I feel ten times more horrible because I hope every morning when I get up she has passed in her sleep! GAH! I feel like such a bad kitty mama! Then I feel like a bad wife when my husband weeps!! UGH!
Side note--Wurp goes back to where Fuzzie, our senior lady, is in the laundry room. He has checked on her 100 times the past few days. Like I said, he's never shown any type of aggression whatsoever towards her, more indifference than anything. He never interacted with her at all. But now it's like he goes to check in.
Ok, new development. Today is day #14 post-neuter and move to the indoors of Shortstack.
Wurp (old grouch) has now taken to sitting directly outside the bedroom door where Shortstack (2 yr old newly neutered) is spending his separation time. This morning, Wurp began beating the crap out of the bedroom door and hissed at it! There is a tiny gap, maybe one inch, under the door, they can't get their paws all the way under it though, because of thicker carpeting in that bedroom, but I think they can see each other's movement and smell each other really well. Which is actually my intent.
I know that Shortstack gets up against the other side of the door when Wurp is doing this, because I hear him bop the door back on the other side, and if I open the door he is up against it in the corner near the hinges. If I observe from a distance (of course all I can see on this side is Wurp) he sits flicking the tip of his tail and then proceeds to smack the door repeatedly and yowls. It's that "your butt is mine" kind of yowl/growl. This morning he hissed at the door. It was one of those hilarious, yet not-at-all-in-reality funny moments. I walked back there and said "just what are you boys up to?" and Wurp looked at me like "I didn't do nothing!!" and Shortstack went meeuurp?? on the other side of the door like "who, me?? Nothing!".
What has brought this on? I am so confused, I swear Wurp can hold a grudge like nobody's business. I don't think I've ever had a cat like him. Everybody was so calm doing the site-swapping, minding their own business....now this. Wurp has always known he was back there, he just never sat and fumed this much. It was usually just a few minutes, then he moved on, and didn't go back to that door unless it was just in passing.
Meanwhile, our senior lady is preparing to cross the bridge. She is going downhill rapidly. She rarely gets up, she drinks water and I have been giving her milk, she drinks a lap or two, but otherwise refusing food. No poop in about four days. Still peeing. I've had to wash her back legs a few times because she pees where she is laying. We've taken her to the vet but basically there isn't anything they can offer except "the" shot. I would have already taken her for "the" shot, but this is my hubby's cat (19 years old) and I am leaving it up to him. He says he can't, not yet. I'm doing my best to encourage it but I cannot be judgmental or pushy with this. She has always been his baby. My nerves are wracked because I'm a "no suffering" kind of pet parent, and I feel even more horrible every time I bring it up to him. Add to that, I feel ten times more horrible because I hope every morning when I get up she has passed in her sleep! GAH! I feel like such a bad kitty mama! Then I feel like a bad wife when my husband weeps!! UGH!
Side note--Wurp goes back to where Fuzzie, our senior lady, is in the laundry room. He has checked on her 100 times the past few days. Like I said, he's never shown any type of aggression whatsoever towards her, more indifference than anything. He never interacted with her at all. But now it's like he goes to check in.