Wow! This thread is amazing.
If a couple (or even a single person) wants to have their own child, at any age, are mature and financially stable, loving and caring, who are we to say they are selfish /should adopt instead/shouldn't have a child?
A parent can die or get ill at ANY age so I don't believe age has anything to do with it except that if the parent is 15 or 16 years old they are hardly likely to be able to support a child physically or emotionally. Gosh they are just children themselves.
My boss's friend sat at the table with her children having breakfast (she was in her early 30's at the time) and she dropped dead on the spot from a brain aneurysm. Gee, how selfish of her to have children that were now orphans!
I personally am not the type of person who would be comfortable adopting a child so I certainly would not condemn anyone else.
I just don't understand how it is selfish to want your own biological child or even how it's anyone's business except the person wanting the child.
As for birth defects, I have 2 friends who have Down's Children and both were young when they had them. In fact one lady had a second child after her first which was Down's and the second child is a beautiful and very intelligent girl who is now a Chemical Engineer.
There are many easy tests today to determine if there are health problems in unborn children and if you ask any parent of a special needs child, I'll bet you they would say they wouldn't change a thing and that their child is just as loved as any other child.
Perhaps we are all just too judgmental these days and seem to think we know what is best for other people.
If a couple (or even a single person) wants to have their own child, at any age, are mature and financially stable, loving and caring, who are we to say they are selfish /should adopt instead/shouldn't have a child?
A parent can die or get ill at ANY age so I don't believe age has anything to do with it except that if the parent is 15 or 16 years old they are hardly likely to be able to support a child physically or emotionally. Gosh they are just children themselves.
My boss's friend sat at the table with her children having breakfast (she was in her early 30's at the time) and she dropped dead on the spot from a brain aneurysm. Gee, how selfish of her to have children that were now orphans!
I personally am not the type of person who would be comfortable adopting a child so I certainly would not condemn anyone else.
I just don't understand how it is selfish to want your own biological child or even how it's anyone's business except the person wanting the child.
As for birth defects, I have 2 friends who have Down's Children and both were young when they had them. In fact one lady had a second child after her first which was Down's and the second child is a beautiful and very intelligent girl who is now a Chemical Engineer.
There are many easy tests today to determine if there are health problems in unborn children and if you ask any parent of a special needs child, I'll bet you they would say they wouldn't change a thing and that their child is just as loved as any other child.
Perhaps we are all just too judgmental these days and seem to think we know what is best for other people.