Linda, you have just adopted 2 kittens, in addition to your current cat. You are about your friend's age, single, and have recently faced a major health issue; I am not crossing any lines here since you have openly posted about these things on this forum. Some people might be judging you; they might wonder if you have the financial resources to take care of 3 cats. Some might think it is selfish of you to adopt 2 kittens at this point in your life.Originally Posted by Natalie_ca
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When a woman hits the age of menopause, she's too old to have kids! Period!
I don't care if the woman can run circles around someone 25 years old. She's still too old to have kids! I'm thinking of the kids, not the woman. It's grossly unfair to the child who will be in the prime of their life when they should be concentrating on college and starting a career, not worrying about a Mother who is in her 70's and likely dependent on him/her for living/care.
My friend having a baby at the age of 49 years old, and contemplating another when she's nearly 51 years old, is purely selfish. I don't care if others disagree with me. It's selfish and places a huge burden on the children she brings into this world....all to satisfy her driving need to have a child. She should have thought of that 15 years ago, not when she's nearly 50 years old!
But you know what? It's absolutely nobody else's business but yours! You are going to take good care of them and love them, and they will bring you much joy. Nobody should judge you or say a word you when you are going to do all of that.
It's the exact same thing with your friend. She has found joy in a child in her life, and wanted you to share in her happiness. It's sad that you wrote that your friend wants another child and you secretly hope she doesn't get her heart's desire <-that's what it is. Why would someone wish that.
I wonder if your friend is posting about people who have too many cats, in some parenting forum, lol.