I reconnected with a high school friend back in the summer of 2009. She's living down in the States and came up to visit her Mom so we got together one evening.
She was always undecided about kids and put her career and travelling above everything else.
So at our meeting I find her telling me about her desire to have a baby! And that her and her boy friend had been doing fertility drugs and donor eggs and IVF for several months, having resulted in her having miscarriage after miscarriage followed by D&Cs after each one. She had just had one 2 weeks prior to our meeting.
I should add, she was 48 years old at the time.
She told me they were going to try one or two more times and then consider a surrogate. They were totally against adoption.
Anyway, one of those last 2 times took, and she got pregnant and became a mother in September, at the ripe old age of 48 years old. She turned 49 on Dec 31/10.
Her Son is 5 months old and cute! I heard from her yesterday, they are planning on doing IVF again later this year or early next year. So if all goes as she plans, she will be having a baby at the age of 50 years!
As happy as I am for her that she finally got to be a Mom. I think 48/49 years old is too old to bring a baby into this world and raise it. Let alone at 49/50!!
You don't have the same energy as you do when you're younger. When they are in high school you will be on pension..... college, you'll likely be in a nursing home.
Colour me mean, but I think what she is doing is highly selfish of her. She's thinking of her own needs and not those of the children and what having such an old parent can mean to them. They'll likely be orphans by the time they are 25 years old
My parents were older when I was born. My Mom 36 and my Dad 59. As much as I loved them, I wish they had me much earlier in their lives, or chose not to have kids at all. Growing up with aging parents when I was a teenager was very difficult. Not that my Mom was aging, but she developed a great deal of health issues that I was responsible to care for at the ripe young age of 14 years old until her death.
Anyway, as much as she wants to have another baby, I'm secretly hoping that she can't and will be happy with the one that she already has.
She was always undecided about kids and put her career and travelling above everything else.
So at our meeting I find her telling me about her desire to have a baby! And that her and her boy friend had been doing fertility drugs and donor eggs and IVF for several months, having resulted in her having miscarriage after miscarriage followed by D&Cs after each one. She had just had one 2 weeks prior to our meeting.
I should add, she was 48 years old at the time.
She told me they were going to try one or two more times and then consider a surrogate. They were totally against adoption.
Anyway, one of those last 2 times took, and she got pregnant and became a mother in September, at the ripe old age of 48 years old. She turned 49 on Dec 31/10.
Her Son is 5 months old and cute! I heard from her yesterday, they are planning on doing IVF again later this year or early next year. So if all goes as she plans, she will be having a baby at the age of 50 years!
As happy as I am for her that she finally got to be a Mom. I think 48/49 years old is too old to bring a baby into this world and raise it. Let alone at 49/50!!
You don't have the same energy as you do when you're younger. When they are in high school you will be on pension..... college, you'll likely be in a nursing home.
Colour me mean, but I think what she is doing is highly selfish of her. She's thinking of her own needs and not those of the children and what having such an old parent can mean to them. They'll likely be orphans by the time they are 25 years old
My parents were older when I was born. My Mom 36 and my Dad 59. As much as I loved them, I wish they had me much earlier in their lives, or chose not to have kids at all. Growing up with aging parents when I was a teenager was very difficult. Not that my Mom was aging, but she developed a great deal of health issues that I was responsible to care for at the ripe young age of 14 years old until her death.
Anyway, as much as she wants to have another baby, I'm secretly hoping that she can't and will be happy with the one that she already has.