That is a lovely cat tree that you bought! I hope she makes good use of it and thoroughly enjoys it .
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But if she's not unhappy, then maybe the main thing that we both need is more time.
It is just hard to know what's best for us both. ...
I thought going to the vet would help me decide, but I find myself as indecisive as ever. Sigh.
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It does sound as if you have a nice and also knowledgeable vet, which is wonderful. But, as you say, this doesn't change the situation or help you decide what is best.
My career and educational background is in counseling, so I tend to read between the lines of what people say/write. This is sometimes dangerous, so if I am way off, just ignore me. :bigwink:
What I think I hear/read is you feel some guilt around the idea of finding the cat a different home. She probably isn't the ideal cat for you at this time, but you're having some trouble accepting the idea of either letting her go or adjusting to her needs and keeping her. Long story short, I've been in your shoes several times in my life. ...When we ignore our own needs or put these needs behind the needs of a pet (or person) we usually suffer.
I very much hope you are able to figure all of this out and decide what is in your best interest as well as the cats. Good luck and please keep us posted.
Vaccinations are great for this!I did ask the vet (kiddingly) if there were tranquilizers he could prescribe for this type of thing and if not, if he could prescribe human tranquilizers. He suggested wine. I like my vet.
Abby does look quite young though.. If she turns out to be more than 2 years old, I'll be surprised!
I thought she looked very young to me! I either thought she was young or a "petit sized" adult cat. This, explains many things.. Her energetic level, her behaviour..
So I took Abby to my vet today and I was not surprised when, while he can't say with absolute certainty, he thinks she is more likely to be about a year old, rather than two.
Finding a more suitable home and letting go of OUR sense of guilt, or OUR sense of failure, IS actually putting the pet's needs first. And if the pet ends up to a more suitable home, it is better for both us and the pet.When we ignore our own needs or put these needs behind the needs of a pet (or person) we usually suffer.