I'll share with you what I've often said to other people with dog issues [I work with problem dogs]: you have to take care of yourself first, last and always. If a pet is causing you stress and you cannot see your way to a workable solution, you need to reexamine the benefit of having that pet. It sounds as if your life is stressful and all you want is a quiet home where you can relax after a trying day. A very reasonable and healthy desire. I'm blessed to work from home and to have support nearby. When Momma Kitty became crazed, I was able to put her somewhere away from where I was trying to relax. She was happy and I was able to rest. It also helped that I had other cats and the dogs. At the time, my other cat would "correct" MK by slapping her with his paw. It was never mean or hurtful, but she did get the message. When she became too much - I carried her over to the barn and let her run around - which pleased her and gave me a break. But I recognize you don't have these options. Ideally, you would have an older more settled cat who would want to simply curl up in your lap and enjoy being near you. (Believe it or not, this is what MK is now, but she is also almost 13) Don't allow this to become yet another thing to feel bad about and/or to stress over. There is nothing wrong about admitting you have been poorly matched to the cat. At her age, she is very adoptable and would fit in well in a household where she might either have another cat companion or someone who doesn't have all your demands on her time and energy. She also sounds like a good "mouser" candidate. Around here, we always have a group of cats who probably wouldn't be happy as indoor cats, but who would do well as barn cats. They have to be placed with people who promise to provide them with food and care, but who also need a good mouser in their barn. High energy, playful cats are often great candidates for this role. Whatever your decision, I wish you peace and much less stress in your life.