I just now found this thread and read through it. Big hugs to you and PHX
My ex, you have taught me so much and for this I thank you.
I thank you my ex for opening my eyes.
I thank you for every nasty word and insult you ever uttered to me because it made me start to better value kind words.
I thank you for making me feel my weakest because now I know the power of my own strength.
I thank you for making me take my friends for granted because now as I look back I realize that the people who picked me up each and every time you kicked me down are worth more than you EVERRRRR were or will be.
I thank you for making me cry endless rivers of tears because eventually I came to see that the one tear of happiness that dripped down my face the moment I came to all of these realizations dried the rest.
I thank you for making me feel absolutely worthless because now I see that the people who are truly worth something won’t ever make you feel this way.
I thank you for teaching me that NOTHING is worth hurting someone I love , especially you.
I thank you for showing me what true love is, not in the way you loved me, because I’ve realized you never did... but in the eyes of every single person who DOES love me.
I thank you for each and every lie you ever told me, because it made me see that by believing you when you were telling me what you knew I wanted to hear, I was only lying to myself.
I thank you for every fight we ever had and how horrible you made me feel because now I’ve come to appreciate each and every relationship in my life that puts a smile on my face.
I thank you for making me realize that I should never have to work for someone’s love, and this taught me the definition and power of unconditional love.
I thank you for NOT loving me because now I’ve come to realize all of the love that IS in my life and I cringe at the thought of ever making myself feel as if I had nothing if I didn’t have yours.
But most of all, I thank you for each and every sleepless night I had to lie awake questioning whether or not I should live...because once the counting ended for the reasons I shouldn’t and I began to count the reasons I should, I ended up losing count.
So I thank you my ex for making me miserable because without knowing that I would have never realized what happiness is.
Thank you for sharing that. It really does make sense.... *hugs*Originally Posted by DaniMarie
I wasn't sure if I wanted to post this, as it is very personal to me.
When I was 19 I fell in love for the first time, HARD. It's quite possibly the only time in my life I've ever felt TRUE love. I was miserable, but truly ,madly and deeply loved this person.
I was his puppet, and it took me a long time after the break-up to realize that. He was not good to me. Everyone saw it and stuck by me, but I didn't until it was too late.
We broke up for good when I was 21-22 (we kept going back and forth, I was so deeply in love and looked past everything he did, including cheating on me several times with my BEST FRIEND) and I wrote this. Some people thought it was bitter, but if anything, it was cleansing for my soul.
So here I share:
Yeah, it's really hard... i think the part that makes it even harder is that I feel really really bad about leaving him with all the bills. i am still giving him money on the 1st for some of the bills- cuz I know he can't do it on his own. But this is the last month I'm helping him. My dad said he'd even borrow me some money if needed.Originally Posted by lunasmom
There is never a set date on how long you're suppose to take to get over someone. From personal experience, you "get over them" a lot quicker when YOU do the leaving then if they break up with you. You could be ready to meet someone next week, next Spring, in 2 years.
Breakups do suck. Personally I think the only reason why he wants you back now is because he's scared about whats going to happen with the bills as well as what's going to happen to him. Sounds like you were his crutch in the relationship (just from what you post here now and before).
The best advice that I can offer you is to find your girlfriends and go out and have tons of fun! You're still young so despite it being a 4 year relationship you'll bounce back quicker.
dads rock like that. Hate to say it, but the last thing they want to see is their daughter being the sugar-momma for some guyOriginally Posted by mybabyphx
Yeah, it's really hard... i think the part that makes it even harder is that I feel really really bad about leaving him with all the bills. i am still giving him money on the 1st for some of the bills- cuz I know he can't do it on his own. But this is the last month I'm helping him. My dad said he'd even borrow me some money if needed.I love parents that are always supportive of you no matter what.
I have only been living in AZ for like a year and a half. I grew up in Iowa. So I don't know very many people here.Originally Posted by lunasmom
Reconnect with people you've lost touch with. since you moved back to someplace you're from, look up people from high school, get together with them and have lunch. Placing new people in your life will help distance yourself from the old.
mines still doing the same thing. it must take em a while 2 get it thru their thick heads.Originally Posted by mybabyphx
He keeps begging me to come back, when does he just realize I'm not coming back?
How much contact does he have with you? Is this in person, over the phone in messages, text messages, IMing, e-mails, or what? I would break off all contact if you can at all for awhile, while things aren't so emotionally raw, heated, and charged. It will be easier on you I would think.Originally Posted by mybabyphx
He keeps begging me to come back, when does he just realize I'm not coming back?
Originally Posted by mybabyphx
I have only been living in AZ for like a year and a half. I grew up in Iowa. So I don't know very many people here.
Some get the point eventually, others don't. A friend of mine still has a guy that calls her....and they broke up 3 years ago!!!Originally Posted by mybabyphx
He keeps begging me to come back, when does he just realize I'm not coming back?