You could always tell her:
Do you realize that in about 40 years, we'll have millions of old ladies running around with tattoos and pierced navels? (Now that's scary!)
Seriously, IMO there are worse things she could have done. Yes, she disobeyed and should have consequences, one of which is that she is not allowed to wear the lip ring and allow the piercing to grow over. Our daughter wanted a tattoo and we went through much the same. I told her when she was 18 she could get a tattoo if she still wanted one. She did but by then she had thought enough about it to get a small one.
Peer pressure is very hard on our young people today. I honestly don't believe we had as much pressure on us.
She should obviously be "punished" for disobeying you and a way should be found to impress upon her that if she wishes to be treated as an adult then she must act so. Unfortunately as one poster suggested she pay her own rent, food, etc., I don't see that as being feasible. She's only 13 - she knows she doesn't have the money, you know she doesn't have the money so it would just become an EMPTY threat. Seek something tangible.
Do you realize that in about 40 years, we'll have millions of old ladies running around with tattoos and pierced navels? (Now that's scary!)
Seriously, IMO there are worse things she could have done. Yes, she disobeyed and should have consequences, one of which is that she is not allowed to wear the lip ring and allow the piercing to grow over. Our daughter wanted a tattoo and we went through much the same. I told her when she was 18 she could get a tattoo if she still wanted one. She did but by then she had thought enough about it to get a small one.
Peer pressure is very hard on our young people today. I honestly don't believe we had as much pressure on us.
She should obviously be "punished" for disobeying you and a way should be found to impress upon her that if she wishes to be treated as an adult then she must act so. Unfortunately as one poster suggested she pay her own rent, food, etc., I don't see that as being feasible. She's only 13 - she knows she doesn't have the money, you know she doesn't have the money so it would just become an EMPTY threat. Seek something tangible.