The "What's on your mind?" Thread -2017

[raina21]

My Fiancé was in town this weekend (for an early valentine's day). He got me a pretty silver and Diamond bracelet, + a card and a book which is basically the complete history of Doctor Who (my favorite show of all time!). We stayed in a hotel near my house so that we could have a little privacy (I SO wish I could move out of my parents' house).

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• raina21
• Feb 12, 2017

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• raina21
• Feb 12, 2017

My Fiancé left around 6pm tonight to fly back to Pennsylvania. :'(

But in happier news, I got some ADORABLE pictures of Tesla today This one was my favorite [emoji]128571[/emoji][emoji]128573[/emoji][emoji]128571[/emoji]

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• raina21
• Feb 12, 2017

 

[Alicia88]

What a beautiful bracelet!!!

Well, I have some news about my sister.  My mother did go back to the jerk.  And DD panicked and ran away.  She made her way to my Grandmother's house.  My mom turned her in as a runaway.  DD got ahold of me and a couple minutes after I got to Grandma's, Christi (other sister) called saying the state patrol had just been to her house looking for her.  I called the state patrol and told them DD was at grandma's so they showed up and we spilled our guts.  This particular officer had arrested the jerk more than a few times and knew the history of abuse.  He called the juvenile officer to report an out of state runaway.  The juvenile officer also knew the jerk's history.  Long story short, Grandma has emergency custody of DD.  A child services person is supposed to go interview DD tomorrow.  We can hope and pray that since this is happening in Missouri, it will stay in Missouri's jurisdiction.  Because people are FINALLY listening.

On the down side, I broke and bought a pack of cigarettes.

 

[segelkatt]

Sending good vibes that this will finally do some good.

 

[foxxycat]

wow thats good news!!! I hope that jerk gets locked up for many years!!

Work called off the first half of the shift. I probably won't bother going in. I hate driving in just to be told turn around a few hours later. The Shipyard cancelled work for all shifts today...they are a few miles from us over in Maine.

I am going to take a nap.....

 

[margd]

 
What a beautiful bracelet!!!

Well, I have some news about my sister.  My mother did go back to the jerk.  And DD panicked and ran away.  She made her way to my Grandmother's house.  My mom turned her in as a runaway.  DD got ahold of me and a couple minutes after I got to Grandma's, Christi (other sister) called saying the state patrol had just been to her house looking for her.  I called the state patrol and told them DD was at grandma's so they showed up and we spilled our guts.  This particular officer had arrested the jerk more than a few times and knew the history of abuse.  He called the juvenile officer to report an out of state runaway.  The juvenile officer also knew the jerk's history.  Long story short, Grandma has emergency custody of DD.  A child services person is supposed to go interview DD tomorrow.  We can hope and pray that since this is happening in Missouri, it will stay in Missouri's jurisdiction.  Because people are FINALLY listening.

On the down side, I broke and bought a pack of cigarettes.

Well,  this is good news!  In fact, it's fantastic news.  

   You must be so relieved to know that the wheels have finally started turning.   With you and Christi backing her up and your grandma offering her a stable place to live, DD should stand a good chance of getting out of the abusive situation permanently.  Fingers crossed that what should happen, does happen.  

 

[foxxycat]

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• foxxycat
• Feb 13, 2017

Honeybee is napping next to Jon...snow started up again. Hopefully I can fall asleep soon. ....love morning naps.

I hope that you Alicia can rest easy if they can help DD get away from the jerk abusing her. Prayers lifted.

 

[artiemom]

 
What a beautiful bracelet!!!

Well, I have some news about my sister.  My mother did go back to the jerk.  And DD panicked and ran away.  She made her way to my Grandmother's house.  My mom turned her in as a runaway.  DD got ahold of me and a couple minutes after I got to Grandma's, Christi (other sister) called saying the state patrol had just been to her house looking for her.  I called the state patrol and told them DD was at grandma's so they showed up and we spilled our guts.  This particular officer had arrested the jerk more than a few times and knew the history of abuse.  He called the juvenile officer to report an out of state runaway.  The juvenile officer also knew the jerk's history.  Long story short, Grandma has emergency custody of DD.  A child services person is supposed to go interview DD tomorrow.  We can hope and pray that since this is happening in Missouri, it will stay in Missouri's jurisdiction.  Because people are FINALLY listening.

On the down side, I broke and bought a pack of cigarettes.

so glad this has happened! fingers crossed.....((hugs)) to you, your sister, and grandmother...

 

[tallyollyopia]

 
What a beautiful bracelet!!!

Well, I have some news about my sister.  My mother did go back to the jerk.  And DD panicked and ran away.  She made her way to my Grandmother's house.  My mom turned her in as a runaway.  DD got ahold of me and a couple minutes after I got to Grandma's, Christi (other sister) called saying the state patrol had just been to her house looking for her.  I called the state patrol and told them DD was at grandma's so they showed up and we spilled our guts.  This particular officer had arrested the jerk more than a few times and knew the history of abuse.  He called the juvenile officer to report an out of state runaway.  The juvenile officer also knew the jerk's history.  Long story short, Grandma has emergency custody of DD.  A child services person is supposed to go interview DD tomorrow.  We can hope and pray that since this is happening in Missouri, it will stay in Missouri's jurisdiction.  Because people are FINALLY listening.

On the down side, I broke and bought a pack of cigarettes.

 Congratulations! And don't feel bad about the cigarettes; with all the stress you're under it makes sense.

 

[Mamanyt1953]

 
What a beautiful bracelet!!!

Well, I have some news about my sister.  My mother did go back to the jerk.  And DD panicked and ran away.  She made her way to my Grandmother's house.  My mom turned her in as a runaway.  DD got ahold of me and a couple minutes after I got to Grandma's, Christi (other sister) called saying the state patrol had just been to her house looking for her.  I called the state patrol and told them DD was at grandma's so they showed up and we spilled our guts.  This particular officer had arrested the jerk more than a few times and knew the history of abuse.  He called the juvenile officer to report an out of state runaway.  The juvenile officer also knew the jerk's history.  Long story short, Grandma has emergency custody of DD.  A child services person is supposed to go interview DD tomorrow.  We can hope and pray that since this is happening in Missouri, it will stay in Missouri's jurisdiction.  Because people are FINALLY listening.

On the down side, I broke and bought a pack of cigarettes.

Yeah, what @Tallyollyopia  said!  The pack of cigarettes are the least of it, and you'll get it back under control.  For now, just rejoice in knowing that DD is safe for the time being, and that things FINALLY to progress!

 

[foxxycat]

Well I managed to get three rooms fully vacuumed...nuked some rice n broccoli and made some rainbow salad. I'm pooped. Back is sore so it's time to lay down...Honeybee was not afraid of the vacuum until I tried to vacuum her...it is a canister with a swivel head for hard floors .this is the only attatchmemt that picks up the fur. I broke the powerhead because my hair wraps around the beater bar and cooked the motor lol. She was not impressed bymy antics and proceeded to run off. Only to return a minute later....

 

[Alicia88]

Nope.  No progress made.  My mother and that ******* showed up.  The state patrol was there apologizing and saying he'd tried everything he could but he had no choice.  She was under Iowa's jurisdiction and she had to go back.

 

[margd]

I'm sorry. I'm really really sorry. And angry.

I can just imagine how you feel.

I can only hope that there will be some communication between the two states that will light a fire under the CPS in Iowa.  

At this point, I'd look up the legislative committee in the Iowa state government that funds CPS and contact the members. True, you are not a resident and they might ignore you, but what can it hurt?

 

[Alicia88]

I had a lovely conversation with my other until she stopped responding.

Do you want your grandchild killed? Cuz this is how you get your grandchild killed.



No, your sister took off.

For good ******* reason. You are her mother. Protecting her should be your number 1 concern. But you go back to an abusive drug addict. You were both safe here. But you went back. If you like getting beat on, fine. Don't force that life on your kids. You were a great mom in every other way. But you always choose him.

DD is trying to do what a mother should do: protect her child. Maybe you should stand behind her instead of keeping her and that innocent baby in a deadly situation. He pushed Christi down the stairs and caused Shane to be premature. Thank God Shane was ok. He might not have been. He might have ended up with horrible birth defects, lifelong health problems, or worse. He could have died.



Ok. Thank you for telling me I was a great mom in every other way. She wasn't being beat yesterday, we had just taken the pool apart & she told me she was going to Tana's then disappeared. She had me worried SIC ALL night!!!!

Maybe she wasn't being beat yesterday, but he does beat her. She didn't want to go back. No sane person would! What will it take to get you to open your eyes? Does he have to kill her? Kill her baby? She's gonna lose that baby. Do you think it's good for her to be yelled at and accused of losing his drugs? And why the **** are you ok with her child and unborn grandchild being exposed to all that?

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[margd]

Oh jeez. I probably shouldn't even start on this.  

DD wasn't being beaten yesterday so that means it's okay?  She should only run away on days when her life is actively in danger?  That's just plain nuts.  That's like saying we should only lock our doors once we've been robbed.

And the idea that your sister is to blame for your mother losing sleep shows a stunning lack of awareness and true understanding of the situation.  She has no idea, absolutely none, who the real victim is in this. She thinks she's being mistreated by your sister.  

Your mother is not in touch with the reality of the situation at all. She really doesn't get it.  I wouldn't even bother arguing with her anymore. It's like arguing with a brainwashed person.  It gets you nowhere.

Frankly, she's lucky you and your sister still talk to her.   My daughters have given me the silent treatment for much less.  

 

[Alicia88]

Christi won't have anything to do with her anymore.  She used to try to let mom see her kids but mom kept sneaking HIM around them.  He would come with her to Christi's and Christi wouldn't let him in the house so he sat in the car and mom would carry the kids to the window one by one and show them to him.  So, Christi has completely cut mom out.  I haven't because of DD.  I feel like it's easier for me to try to help DD if I'm on speaking terms with my mother.  That way, she's not actively preventing DD from having any contact with me.  But I don't blame Christi one little bit.  She's protecting her kids.  Which is what my mother SHOULD do, but won't.  And soap box away.  You're not saying anything I haven't thought or said on multiple occasions.

 

[margd]

You're right, of course.  You must keep the lines of communication open with your mother so you can stay in touch with DD.   Would she allow DD to come stay with you a few days each month so that she (DD) could at least get a break?  An island of sanity and safety in the middle of chaos and danger might help her recharge and deal with the incredible stress she must be under.   Your sister already has so much on her plate.  How does she manage to function with everything she has to worry about?

 

[Alicia88]

I doubt it.  Since DD "ran away," she probably won't be allowed to go anywhere.  Mom's ticked because DD is failing Algebra right now.  Honestly, I'm impressed that's the only class she's failing!  I think the poor girl deserves a medal!

 

[foxxycat]

Yeah soap box away! I think we all agree that's a lousy situation and I am TICKED off at the government for not doing more!

 

[tallyollyopia]

 
Oh jeez. I probably shouldn't even start on this.  

DD wasn't being beaten yesterday so that means it's okay?  She should only run away on days when her life is actively in danger?  That's just plain nuts.  That's like saying we should only lock our doors once we've been robbed.

And the idea that your sister is to blame for your mother losing sleep shows a stunning lack of awareness and true understanding of the situation.  She has no idea, absolutely none, who the real victim is in this. She thinks she's being mistreated by your sister.  

Your mother is not in touch with the reality of the situation at all. She really doesn't get it.  I wouldn't even bother arguing with her anymore. It's like arguing with a brainwashed person.  It gets you nowhere.

Frankly, she's lucky you and your sister still talk to her.   My daughters have given me the silent treatment for much less.  

 And from what I understand of DV cases, she has  been brainwashed.

 
Christi won't have anything to do with her anymore.  She used to try to let mom see her kids but mom kept sneaking HIM around them.  He would come with her to Christi's and Christi wouldn't let him in the house so he sat in the car and mom would carry the kids to the window one by one and show them to him.  So, Christi has completely cut mom out.  I haven't because of DD.  I feel like it's easier for me to try to help DD if I'm on speaking terms with my mother.  That way, she's not actively preventing DD from having any contact with me.  But I don't blame Christi one little bit.  She's protecting her kids.  Which is what my mother SHOULD do, but won't.  And soap box away.  You're not saying anything I haven't thought or said on multiple occasions.

 She did what? Your sister made it plainly clear that he wasn't allowed near the children and she did what?! No, I don't blame your sister either.

 
I doubt it.  Since DD "ran away," she probably won't be allowed to go anywhere.  Mom's ticked because DD is failing Algebra right now.  Honestly, I'm impressed that's the only class she's failing!  I think the poor girl deserves a medal!

Here's a good question here; is there anyway the officers who responded can connect with their counterparts in Iowa to help DD? You lose nothing by asking, and maybe seeing that there are parties involved that are not either going away  or shutting up  will help kick child services in gear.

 

[foxxycat]

I hope someone somewhere can step in and put a stop to this abuse. I am disgusted with the adults in their lives who think this is ok. I really don't get it! Around here you can be charged with Assault for hitting someone..maybe the sister has to go to the police station and say she is pressing charges of assault and battery. And someone in that town needs to answer to this...I would notify media and get them involved..someone is making a grave mistake not putting a stop to this. Maybe she can sue her mother for assault. Since the mother is responsible for her safety. She should press charges against BOTH parties. My head is spinning at how stupid this mother sounds.

 

 

 

 

I got a question..someone said that Honeybee may be a Turkish Angora..I looked at the photos of them and their eyes are closer together than Honeybee's. I originally thought she had some Ragdoll in her because she is a slinky floppy kitty but strong and bull headed.

I wanted to post a photo I took but the network is taking forever to send the picture from my phone to the email site...it's been 10 minutes!! crazy! I will post it soon..we have another meeting with head huncho for an hour..big changes coming they keep saying but I have been here for over a decade and nothing has changed...The news is all atwitter about their stupid higher ups making poor decisions and the workers always pay the price while they get a big parachute deal...