You know many of us share the pain and know the feeling of losing such an important part of our lives. I'm so sorry Tammie.
Nakita was only 4 and way too young to be taken. But I hold strong to the fact that she was in my life for a reason, to teach me things that no other could. You know what I'm talking about and really focus on these life moments Tammie and your heart will be better for it.
Be gentle with yourself Tammie....as was told to me by many here when Nakita passed and now I'm passing this on to you.
I could have written those same words. It's been 9 months since losing Nakita and there are days that it feels like I just lost her. Then, there are those other days that you are thankful for all the other parts of your life and that it was a gift to have such a soul grace it. You cherish those moments. And then, you go on and try to balance everything and remember that life really is beautiful and precious and you pick yourself up and keep moving forward.Originally Posted by AlleyGirl
Now, I get through most days ok, and there are things here and there that set me off and I cry like a baby and it feels like just yesterday that it happened.
Don't try to hurry your grief..... Just let things happen in their own time and do whatever you need to do to get through this difficult time.
Right after Nakita passed away I started a new job. That's one of the things that helped me put things in perspective and keep me involved. A new routine and getting out of the house really helped. Distractions are the best way to keep you in tune to the larger world.Originally Posted by mzjazz2u
I've found over the long weekend that it's better if I go to work. It distracts me a bit. Thanks for sharing and supporting me!
Oh, how I know that feeling!Originally Posted by mzjazz2u
Yes, I wish he could have been with me at least another 10 years! He was only 6!
I can't imagine one person not feeling the same. It's the worst feeling to have to play God. To this day I'll often still run through the 'what if's'. If I took Nakita to the doctor sooner, if she was part of the tainted food scare, if I gave her one more day maybe, just MAYBE we would still have her in our lives. It never ends. Jake has forgiven you, just like Nakita has forgiven me. BUT, the one you have to forgive, is yourself. We are our own worst enemies - we never forget and we replay emotional events over and over. It's human nature and it is a part of the grief process.Originally Posted by mzjazz2u
ONe of the hard parts is that I made the decission to have Jake pts. I feel responsible and often second guess my decission. I hope Jake has forgiven me.
Be gentle with yourself Tammie....as was told to me by many here when Nakita passed and now I'm passing this on to you.