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Yes, please! (I'm feeling left out of the pickle group.Originally Posted by neetanddave
Pickle anyone???
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vbPlaza gift etiquette questions
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I like giving gifts too and I don't expect anything back from them, all I have given a gift to have sent me a thank you and that is enough for me.
When people having given me something, I have also thanked them too.
When people having given me something, I have also thanked them too.
There's got to be some special story behind all these pickles!Originally Posted by GingersMom
Yes, please! (I'm feeling left out of the pickle group.)
Hilda >^..^<
Hmmm...I wondered what the virtual etiquette was.
Now I can hog all the points for myself!!!!!
Just Kidding
Now I can hog all the points for myself!!!!!
Just Kidding
I know, right! It makes me a teeny bit jealous but I'm glad that those people are getting loving, I'm sure they deserve it!
It's better to give than to receive!
BTW - there's a lovely new signature for you on the completed sigs thread...
I don't have the points to reciprocate....I certainly have been sending than you PM's, though
My main concern is that a lot of members have 10 or 15 gifts while several have none. It sort of turns the whole thing into a popularity contest, IMO, and makes the boards more "clique-ish".
My main concern is that a lot of members have 10 or 15 gifts while several have none. It sort of turns the whole thing into a popularity contest, IMO, and makes the boards more "clique-ish".
One green pickle coming right up ..... when the store opens back up, of course!Originally Posted by GingersMom
Yes, please! (I'm feeling left out of the pickle group.)
As far as getting a gift and feeling like I should give one in return. Not really, I do say Thank you and I know I will give a gift in return one day!
When I give a gift, I expect no gift in return. I am a natural giver and I LOVE to give people things!! I like to make you smile!
I'm going to use Abbysmom as an example... Karen I hope you don't mind but One.. she is a siggy maker and has been one for a long time so some of her gifts are as a Thank You for the time she has spend on their siggy.
TWO.. I actually like to find weird things to give her because I know it drives her crazy.
Don't feel jealous because they seem to have tons of gifts. They interact with so many of the members helping with a variety of things in pm to siggy's, even computer problems behind the scene that you never know about. Honestly they wouldn't want you to be jealous anyway.
I agree.
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Some of my gifts have come from ME! I see something that I want and I buy it.
There is? Thanks for telling me, I'll go look!
I just don't see it that way though.
I enjoy looking at all of Susie's gifts because some of them are hilarious as to why they were given. I don't in any way feel she is competing in a popularity contest or that she belongs to a certain group. She does have a group of friends and they chit chat about everything but I also know they welcome any and all who feel like joining them.
I'm not picking on Susie by pointing her out but Susie is here a lot so she is going to know a fair amount of people. So in all fairness she would have her share of gifts.
Explain the pickle thing to me!
I don't really know.. I've never got one!!! :cry:
Nobody loves me..
Just joking...
I would say it would just depend on the gift they gave you..
Nobody loves me..
Just joking...
I would say it would just depend on the gift they gave you..
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This is a general response, and not aimed directly at you, Lioness:
Some people are buying gifts for themselves - I don't see this as a popularity thing. Another poster complained the other day in an email that they feel left out and ignored, but aren't asking for anything in response - how exactly do you respond to that?
The ONLY "inner circle" that I see here with over 1,900 ACTIVE posters is that of the owner, mentors and mods, and that makes complete sense.
No one here excludes anyone else on purpose, it is simply that just like every other aspect of life, friendships tend to form between like-minded people. Why would TCS be any different?
Instead of sitting back and waiting for people to include me, I just jumped right in and started posting my heart out. I don't feel left out, because I am ACTIVE.
I get along better with some than with others, based upon values and perspectives, and while I joke a bit about feeling left out of the pickle group, if I REALLY want one, I can just post until I have enough points to BUY one!
In any group of people, in cyberland or IRL, there will always be smaller circles of people, it is a matter of simple human dynamics. If you aren't bold enough to put yourself out there and STAY out there, then IMO you have no right to complain that you are feeling left out.
I don't mean to sound harsh AT ALL, it is just that I have heard this same kind of complaint in every single kind of group I have ever participated in. If you want to BE a part of things then you HAVE to put yourself out there.
These gifts are virtual and just silly fun, I am positive that there is nothing mean in the fact that there are only so many available at a time, only so many points available to posters to spend, and therefore not everyone is going to get one right away.
And if we don't know who you are, how do we know what kind of gift to give you?
I'm sorry, but these kind of complaints really steam me. Those who are first to complain that they feel excluded are generally those that sit in the back and don't speak up often or at all.
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Good point.
I often look at members names and think *should I send them something since they don't have anything* And then I think *they might not like that since they don't know me* So, it's a toss up most of the time. I give gifts to those I know fairily well and then to myself as I said.
I often look at members names and think *should I send them something since they don't have anything* And then I think *they might not like that since they don't know me* So, it's a toss up most of the time. I give gifts to those I know fairily well and then to myself as I said.
