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post #91 of 107
Dang it girlfriend, you are too special to let one little conversation that sounds like it still has potential (to me) get you down. Pick yourself up, go get some ice cream and a spoon and hog out. (that always helps )
post #92 of 107
Thread Starter 
Well, I haven't stopped eating since I got home.

The next time I see him will be Tuesday, so almost a week. I feel like I am going to be sick.
post #93 of 107
Oh I am so sorry that you are so down. Maybe he just got shy or something or maybe he is good at remembering numbers. And maybe he just didn't want to put you through the trouble of you getting the number for him. Hugs to you and if he does turn out to not call you then he is not worth such a wonderful person's time anyway.
post #94 of 107
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Originally Posted by Tavia'smom View Post
Oh I am so sorry that you are so down. Maybe he just got shy or something or maybe he is good at remembering numbers. And maybe he just didn't want to put you through the trouble of you getting the number for him. Hugs to you and if he does turn out to not call you then he is not worth such a wonderful person's time anyway.
Thanks, I'm trying to think of it that way...that it would be his loss if he doesn't call. It still sucks, I have been so excited over this guy for weeks. I just really thought he maybe felt the same.

Thank you very much for your kind words
post #95 of 107
Awwww sweetie that didnt sound bad ...........maybe hes legitimately busy this weekend .... he sought YOU out to ask for the # when you first saw him and AGAIN when he was leaving ... remember that ... if he wasnt interested he wouldnt have asked twice
post #96 of 107
if i was allowed to eat ice cream i would join you for some.

sure it is rough when you work yourself up to ask someone out, and it does not seem to work out the way you want.

next time you see him have your number ready, and just hand it to him.
Even if you dont get a date with him, so what, there are lots of guys out there. I would bet if you look around the gym there are others. You did it once so you can do it again Dont give on yourself like that. if you see a guy you like just go for it.
post #97 of 107
Oh Honey, don't be so hard on youself! As Pami says, he did ask for your number twice! I'm sending you "sexy vibes"!
post #98 of 107
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone

I am a little more calm this morning. I think I will just see what happens on Tuesday. And who knows, he may even call before then. I failed to mention in the previous post that he did touch my leg on his way out..so thats good I guess. I think I was freaking out because he turned me down for this weekend mostly..and really, who remembers a phone number??

Anyway, thanks for the support..

Dammit, my phone has been broken since yesterday though..for some reason, there is no dialtone, so hopefully he doesn't call while its broken..AAAAH!!
post #99 of 107
See, I knew that ice cream would help!
post #100 of 107
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Originally Posted by neetanddave View Post
See, I knew that ice cream would help!
I didn't actually have ice cream..I had flakies, an pizza pops, and popcorn and cheese and crackers...I ate alot.

Guys are so confusing..Are there any guys on TCS that can tell me if he actually plans on calling me?? The way he asked me for it..that he would remember it sounds weird to me...CAN ANY MEN ON HERE TELL ME WHAT THIS MEANS?!!
post #101 of 107
DO I NEED TO GET BOXING GLOVES ON ?????

No - not yet !!
think what some of the others have said is right. Its probably true he has things planned, it is a busy holiday weekend - and if he thinks you are playing things slow, maybe he doesnt want to scare you off either. All that tension, looks, touches, etc between must mean something !! He touched your leg before he went, well, girl, if he was trying to sneak away, that wasnt a very clever thing to do,
was it ? ? I think NOT

Heres sending some more - {{{{{{GET ON WITH IT }}}}}} vibes for you !!
and some girlie it´ll be OK oh and some from my kitty-crew
post #102 of 107
I agree that it didn't go badly! I know that it sucks waiting for a guy to call, but just try to be patient. He definitely sounds like he is still interested.
post #103 of 107
Hey, that doesn't sound bad at all. Lots of people can remember phone numbers. What I'd do next is be nice to him when you see him from now on, but don't go out of your way to write down your number or ask him out again. Just be friendly and cool... he'd probably like a bit of a chase next since it's his turn.

You know, he might have a girlfriend already, but he's obviously interested in you. You did your part so let him decide where to go from here.

He sounds like a decent guy.

Cheers, from
SwampWitch
post #104 of 107
First a little advice: Never leave it up to the opposite sex to make you happy! I learned that very early on in life and it has worked wonderfully for me.

I just read quickly through your thread. I don't quite understand why you're upset?

From what I see, you caught him totally off guard when you asked him out this weekend. He probably felt uncomfortable because his mind went blank and his mouth wouldn't work. He's probably used to making the first move and you scared him! See you have more power than you think

Then he did ask for your number. Honestly, if he didn't care anything about you he would have left the gym. Plus your phone is broken so you'll be second guessing yourself all weekend if he called or not.

Enjoy your weekend, rent some movies, go for a walk, bake some brownies, start your Christmas shopping, etc. etc. etc. Let Tuesday come and let life happen. The more you worry/agonize over all the little details with this guy, the more you're going to be upset if things don't go the way you plan it. If you don't focus all your thoughts on him, you'll let things happen and your emotions won't all be dictated by a guy you barely know.

Everything happens for a reason and if it's meant to be it will be. You have shown your interest now it's his turn. AND if blue pants isn't it, maybe grey pants will come along, or red pants, or black pants...or...

post #105 of 107
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Thanks Russian Blue, that is great advice. I don't know why, but I always get very down when I feel rejected by a guy. I know its not a big deal..but my ego suffers I guess.

Perhaps all is not lost..and I have already decided that he will do all the work from now on. I am not going to chase any guy, I am too good for that. I think someone should chase me for a change.
post #106 of 107
She's back! She got some cattitude from her Trout girl I think!
post #107 of 107
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Originally Posted by neetanddave View Post
She's back! She got some cattitude from her Trout girl I think!
I agree! / Cheer up gorgeous- you're still in the game- he asked for your number twice. He wouldn't have if he weren't interested. Chill out for the time being- go shopping, do your workouts, watch some tv, (and don't hit the snacks tooooo hard- you don't want a tummy ache-hehe, but a little ice cream is always good) When it comes down to it- you have to realize that above what anyone else thinks- you are beautiful and gorgeous, inside and out. You determine your reaction to others actions. You determine if you're going to allow something to upset you or make you happy- nobody else has the power to do that, including mr. blue pants. So get back out there with your cattitude and your gorgeousness and hang in there
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