Ask a guy out.. Or wait for him to ask??

ericanicole · Oct 20, 2006

lifes to short...
go ahead and ask him out.
play it cool...act like its no big deal.
I get all nervous around men. So my front is my humor. Always cracking jokes. No one really gets to know me without me being a goofball.Also you can turn that humor into flirting, it usually works.
Being yourself is key.
Rushing things puts pressure that can intimidate both people.
so just take each day and each feeling at a time.

good luck!

persi & alley · Oct 21, 2006

Originally Posted by Trouts mom

Alright, so without going into so much detail...

What does everyone think...ladies and gents:

Should a girl make the first move as in asking a guy out....or should she wait for the guy to ask??

These are my thoughts...I would be afraid the girl seems desperate if she asks the guy out...but also, the girl doesn't want to wait much longer for this guy to get up the guts to ask her...

Lets say the girl is pretty sure he's interested...and she is TIRED of waiting, she has only talked to him twice, but both times were very lovely.

BUT she would like to keep her pride and would rather not chase a guy, so to speak..

Opinions?

I probably would not be married today if my wife had not asked me out first. I am very glad she did.

tonim68 · Oct 21, 2006

There is nothing desperate about a woman making the first move. I had asked out about 95% of the guys I dated annnnd I also made the first move on my now husband. My theory is this...
#1. On what rock is it written that a man has to make the first move and the woman has to sit and wait in submission?
#2. If you ask a guy out and he says no, then you were no worse off than you were 10 minutes ago and you took a chance.

Nothing worse than wondering "what if.."

So GO FOR IT!

trouts mom · Oct 23, 2006

Alright well, he didn't ask for my number today...

BUT...this is what happened:

I noticed him on a machine where his butt sticks up in the air, so I casually started using the machine next to him (which was in my circuit), and just said "nice bum"..to get his attention...He looked up and sheepishly smiled..then we small talked for about 10 minutes. He then said he was going to finish up and he would talk to me later (and touched my arm).

A little bit later, I was on a machine maybe 20 feet from him..I glanced over and he was lookin at me, so I gave him a wink..(so not me, I don't know where I'm getting these flirting tactics from) So he winks back at me..It was so endearing to do that as if noone else was around *sigh*.

Later on, as he was leaving I was on the treadmill..he came up and said "are you gonna be here on Wednesday? and I said yes, and he said alright I'll see you then..have a good couple of days"...(and touched my arm again)

I'm still in the game right??!!

tonim68 · Oct 23, 2006

Absolutely!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YAY YOU!!!!! Just play it smooth. Do the flirty thing for a bit. Next thing you know, he's YOURS!!!

Good luck Wednesday!

marie-p · Oct 23, 2006

Originally Posted by Trouts mom

Alright well, he didn't ask for my number today...

BUT...this is what happened:

I noticed him on a machine where his butt sticks up in the air, so I casually started using the machine next to him (which was in my circuit), and just said "nice bum"..to get his attention...He looked up and sheepishly smiled..then we small talked for about 10 minutes. He then said he was going to finish up and he would talk to me later (and touched my arm).

A little bit later, I was on a machine maybe 20 feet from him..I glanced over and he was lookin at me, so I gave him a wink..(so not me, I don't know where I'm getting these flirting tactics from) So he winks back at me..It was so endearing to do that as if noone else was around *sigh*.

Later on, as he was leaving I was on the treadmill..he came up and said "are you gonna be here on Wednesday? and I said yes, and he said alright I'll see you then..have a good couple of days"...(and touched my arm again)

I'm still in the game right??!!

Wow. you're good!

I need to get some flirtation lessons from you!

4crazycats · Oct 23, 2006

Sounds Good so far! YAY! I'm the same way about flirting. I'm not a really flirty person but with John I was like some crazy person. Lots of winking, touching arms but only from me. Finally he said he liked me. I didnt think he did but I thought he was cute. LOL

rapunzel47 · Oct 23, 2006

Originally Posted by Trouts mom

I'm still in the game right??!!

I'd say!

trouts mom · Oct 23, 2006

Originally Posted by 4crazycats

Sounds Good so far! YAY! I'm the same way about flirting. I'm not a really flirty person but with John I was like some crazy person. Lots of winking, touching arms but only from me. Finally he said he liked me. I didnt think he did but I thought he was cute. LOL

I'm usually not that good at flirting if I really like someone...but something just came out of me today..I can't wait any longer..I DREAM of even just hugging his guy. I am so smitten its sickening.

Hopefully Wednesday he finally asks for my number or I will SCREAM!!

mooficat · Oct 24, 2006

"nice bum" ................ "winked at him "

thought you said you were shy !!!!

way to go, how could he resist..............ohh the tension is mounting .....I can feel it here.......
when you finally get a grip thats gonna be something real special

Oh and BTW - you MUST POST A PHOTO OF THIS HUNK - we all wanna see him

Good luck for Wed

trouts mom · Oct 24, 2006

Originally Posted by mooficat

"nice bum" ................ "winked at him "

thought you said you were shy !!!!

way to go, how could he resist..............ohh the tension is mounting .....I can feel it here.......
when you finally get a grip thats gonna be something real special

Oh and BTW - you MUST POST A PHOTO OF THIS HUNK - we all wanna see him

Good luck for Wed

I AM shy, thats the weird thing. I'm just sick of waiting around for him to make a move I guess

There is alot of tension..I feel like the first time we hang out..I should definately stay in public places.

Trust me, I'll be whipping out the camera as soon as humanly possible without totally freaking him out

Tomorrow I will hopefully snag a date for the weekend

starryeyedtiger · Oct 24, 2006

Woo Hoo! I hope you land a date with blue pants for the weekend!!! Hehe, just don't talk about nuts around him and you'll be fine

trouts mom · Oct 24, 2006

Originally Posted by StarryEyedTiGeR

Woo Hoo! I hope you land a date with blue pants for the weekend!!! Hehe, just don't talk about nuts around him and you'll be fine

OMG could you imagine....."Um, so blue pants..do you like nuts?"

Like I would call him blue pants to his face

starryeyedtiger · Oct 24, 2006

Originally Posted by Trouts mom

OMG could you imagine....."Um, so blue pants..do you like nuts?"

Like I would call him blue pants to his face

that would be one quick way to end your date if he turns out to be a weirdo

trouts mom · Oct 25, 2006

Alright well, today is the day. If I come home tonight with NO date this weekend, I will be fuming!!!

Guys, you have been awesome, please keep the good vibes and luck coming

mooficat · Oct 25, 2006

{{{{{vibes}}}}} {{{{{vibes}}}}} {{{{{vibes}}}}}}}

purrpaws · Oct 25, 2006

But have you asked him the really important question yet? Does he like cats?!? Inquiring minds want to know.

mooficat · Oct 25, 2006

Originally Posted by PurrPaws

But have you asked him the really important question yet? Does he like cats?!? Inquiring minds want to know.

OMG did we all forget the most important Q of all

is he ..............a ..........

neetanddave · Oct 25, 2006

{{{{{}}}}}} Good Luck Vibes!!!!!

goosehazel · Oct 25, 2006

Lots of luck and vibes!! I can't wait to hear what happened

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