Pet Peeves

[Winchester]

Another pet peeve:

People who are always late. I will give somebody the benefit of the doubt. Once. After that? You're on your own. And I'm gone.

 

[LTS3]

I've told my Mom plenty of times that I am never ever popping out babies :uuh: I don't have the patience for children nor the financial means to support a child to at least adulthood. And a child is a huge responsibility. I get why people have kids and that's great but having a child is not the right life decision for me. Just call me crazy cat lady for life

Back to my other peeve about the 20-something who didn't give his seat up: He was sitting in the seats that are clearly marked as priority seating for handicapped and eldery people. Anyone can sit there but it's just courteous to give the seat up to someone who needs it more. The older woman sitting next to the 20-something always grumbles about a bad back but she still gave her seat up to the man with crutches. And it's at least a 30 minute bumpy ride to where she gets off the bus. Personally I feel she should have asked the 20-something if he could give his seat to the man with crutches.

Many 20-somethings aren't like this one guy. I've seen 20-sometimes offer to help those in need before.

 

[Kat0121]

I've told my Mom plenty of times that I am never ever popping out babies :uuh: I don't have the patience for children nor the financial means to support a child to at least adulthood. And a child is a huge responsibility. I get why people have kids and that's great but having a child is not the right life decision for me. Just call me crazy cat lady for life

Back to my other peeve about the 20-something who didn't give his seat up: He was sitting in the seats that are clearly marked as priority seating for handicapped and eldery people. Anyone can sit there but it's just courteous to give the seat up to someone who needs it more. The older woman sitting next to the 20-something always grumbles about a bad back but she still gave her seat up to the man with crutches. And it's at least a 30 minute bumpy ride to where she gets off the bus. Personally I feel she should have asked the 20-something if he could give his seat to the man with crutches.

Many 20-somethings aren't like this one guy. I've seen 20-sometimes offer to help those in need before.

I applaud anyone who knows that parenthood isn't right for them and sticks to it. I was reading an article recently about a young woman who wanted a tubal ligation and had to go to doctor after doctor after doctor to find one who would so it for her.

http://www.marieclaire.com/health-fitness/a15937/tubes-tied-young/

Some even had the gall to ask her, "what if your future husband wants children?"

The subject of whether or not someone wants children should be a subject that is discussed very early in the relationship NOT after a trip down the aisle. As in first date stuff. "hey I just wanted to let you know that I do NOT want children." If the person is OK with it. keep going. If not, say " it was nice meeting you" and move on. No need to waste someone else's time when they could be looking for someone who wants the same things they do. I understand that people change over time and might change their mind but if this happens, the subject needs to be re-addressed ASAP.

Not picking on Catholics personally ( only the church leaders who refuse to pull themselves out of the stone age- I was raised a Roman Catholic) BUT when DH and I were getting married we went to a pre cana conference. We were told flat out by the priest that, "The reason you are all here is because you plan on having children" and then went on to remind us about how bad birth control is. I felt like a time machine had dragged me back 200 years. Sorry but anyone who takes a vow of celibacy has NO business telling anyone anything about birth control. He was horrified when I told him that we already had DD at that point. I wanted to ask him, " would you have preferred I DIDN'T have her?" :rolleyes2

What if someone there were infertile? How would his statement make that person feel? That whole experience was awful and I fully regret having married in the Catholic church. We were pressured into doing so by both mothers. I would never,ever do that again

This was 1995 not 1975.

 

[Primula]

I've noticed recently that the counter staff at Dunkin Donuts "appreciate tips". I am sorry, but I am not going to tip a counter person.

Bad hygiene in food places: I have frequently seen various staff at various Dunkin Donuts clean table tops & counter surfaces with a microfiber cloth. This is so disgusting. They should not be cleaning with a cloth that is used over & over again spreading germs as it goes. Only disposable cloths should be used & then thrown away.

At Au Bon Pain recently the counter person put on gloves to make my sandwich. When he was done with the sandwich filling he then wiped his gloved hands on a filthy piece of rag underneath the counter. And then proceeded to finish off my sandwich. I did not say anything to him, but filled out an online survey pointing this out. Amazing how many places wear gloves, but are otherwise insanitary.

I never wanted children & do not regret my decision at all. A grandchild would be nice though.

I always self-check my groceries. Will not go any store that does not allow this.

 

[MoochNNoodles]

I've found people are very opinionated on motherhood no matter what. We were married almost 7 years before DD was born. I feel like I've heard it all. When people would ask when we were having kids I'd tell them (in a no nonsense voice) 2010. Most gasped & then I'd say; I'll only be 28. To that they'd go "oooh." Like that made sense. Not that it was their business. Most never asked again. I love being a mom and a surprise would have been ok; but I'm glad we waited.

What shocked me more was all the opinions that came after! Especially from other mothers. They can be so harsh!! Breast is best, give a bottle, baby-wear, don't hold them too much, cloth diaper, disposable but only organic!, co-sleep, own bedroom, etc. Fortunately I've developed some grit since 2010 (yes we really did wait till 2010!) and very few people's opinions matter. Some are shut down before they can be given. I'm kind but firm.

 

[Kat0121]

I've found people are very opinionated on motherhood no matter what. We were married almost 7 years before DD was born. I feel like I've heard it all. When people would ask when we were having kids I'd tell them (in a no nonsense voice) 2010. Most gasped & then I'd say; I'll only be 28. To that they'd go "oooh." Like that made sense. Not that it was their business. Most never asked again. I love being a mom and a surprise would have been ok; but I'm glad we waited.

What shocked me more was all the opinions that came after! Especially from other mothers. They can be so harsh!! Breast is best, give a bottle, baby-wear, don't hold them too much, cloth diaper, disposable but only organic!, co-sleep, own bedroom, etc. Fortunately I've developed some grit since 2010 (yes we really did wait till 2010!) and very few people's opinions matter. Some are shut down before they can be given. I'm kind but firm.

Yep- for the most part, mothers are judged far more harshly than fathers.

 

[Primula]

A friend is having her 1st baby in her mid-thirties. A surprise since she was on b/c. She told me that if she asks about a specific thing re the baby, she gets 10 different answers.

 

[kissthisangel]

I've noticed recently that the counter staff at Dunkin Donuts "appreciate tips". I am sorry, but I am not going to tip a counter person.

Bad hygiene in food places: I have frequently seen various staff at various Dunkin Donuts clean table tops & counter surfaces with a microfiber cloth. This is so disgusting. They should not be cleaning with a cloth that is used over & over again spreading germs as it goes. Only disposable cloths should be used & then thrown away.

At Au Bon Pain recently the counter person put on gloves to make my sandwich. When he was done with the sandwich filling he then wiped his gloved hands on a filthy piece of rag underneath the counter. And then proceeded to finish off my sandwich. I did not say anything to him, but filled out an online survey pointing this out. Amazing how many places wear gloves, but are otherwise insanitary.

I never wanted children & do not regret my decision at all. A grandchild would be nice though.

I always self-check my groceries. Will not go any store that does not allow this.

The glove thing annoys me too especially when they use the same glove to take the money and make the food, it would be cleaner not to wear the blue glove and sanitize hands between each part of it.  NOT make my sandwich with the same gloved hand that you've just counted change out of a till with that could have been handled by thousands of people, been on the floor, used to take drugs. YUCK.  Might as well play a few pounds in a penny arcade and then lick my hand clean.

 

[raina21]

I've noticed recently that the counter staff at Dunkin Donuts "appreciate tips". I am sorry, but I am not going to tip a counter person.

Bad hygiene in food places: I have frequently seen various staff at various Dunkin Donuts clean table tops & counter surfaces with a microfiber cloth. This is so disgusting. They should not be cleaning with a cloth that is used over & over again spreading germs as it goes. Only disposable cloths should be used & then thrown away.

At Au Bon Pain recently the counter person put on gloves to make my sandwich. When he was done with the sandwich filling he then wiped his gloved hands on a filthy piece of rag underneath the counter. And then proceeded to finish off my sandwich. I did not say anything to him, but filled out an online survey pointing this out. Amazing how many places wear gloves, but are otherwise insanitary.

I never wanted children & do not regret my decision at all. A grandchild would be nice though.

I always self-check my groceries. Will not go any store that does not allow this.

My family has owned and operated a successful restaurant for 20 years.

Re: the microfiber cloth thing.

Any cloth that is used to wipe tables/surfaces is going to be rinsed off and then soaked in a bucket of bleach water between each time an employee goes out to wipe tables. I seriously doubt that the germs are being "spread around" as bleach would kill anything harmful.

Our restaurant uses cloths too. Has been for 20 years. With a grand total of 0 people ever getting sick from our food or the hygiene. And we have only been wearing gloves since it became a requirement by the board of health about 8 years ago. We always just washed our hands before preparing food.

Any place that uses gloves should be training their employees not to touch money with their gloves on. The cashiers at our restaurant NEVER make the food. EVER. Any time I see the cashier in another restaurant (because it never happens at ours, because we actually know how to freaking train people) touch money with gloves on, I always demand that that person put on a new pair of gloves before making my food. That is the one thing I do freak out about when I see it at other restaurants.

 

[Primula]

Sounds good re the bleach thing, but this is not happening at Au Bon Pain or Dunkin. These are cloths they pull out from under the counter and use time & time again. It's disgusting.

 

[Kat0121]

Sounds good re the bleach thing, but this is not happening at Au Bon Pain or Dunkin. These are cloths they pull out from under the counter and use time & time again. It's disgusting.

Yeah I agree. I've worked in restaurants in the past and have seen the hot water/bleach method but I've also seen the wet rag under the counter thing too. It's gross. After a while the rag starts to smell. Fast food/convenience places are more likely to use the wet rag method than a "real" restaurant IMO.

 

[Primula]

My dumb a** iPad that does not let me do multi-quote. Pain in the bum.

People who don't acknowledge my emails. This one really burns me. I would NEVER ignore someone's email. Even one of my brothers in England does it. Or he will drop out of the convo suddenly, never to return. So rude.

 

[kissthisangel]

Toothpaste adverts are really annoying me at the moment. They all follow the same pattern. some "Dentist" in a white coat sits on a stool near a dental bed. Cue some blurry shots of dental looking people talking over a patient or a sample,  the camera zooms in at weird 45 degree angles whilst the "dentist" tells you why whatever toothpaste is the best.

WHY are you sitting at this angle. Is tilting my vision to one side going to improve my teeth?

ugh so angry.

 I really don't know why I'm so bothered by it, but they are ALL the same.

 

[oldgloryrags88]

My dumb a** iPad that does not let me do multi-quote. Pain in the bum.

People who don't acknowledge my emails. This one really burns me. I would NEVER ignore someone's email. Even one of my brothers in England does it. Or he will drop out of the convo suddenly, never to return. So rude.

Agreed! Or when you inquiry about something available and they never reply. Or they just say 'yes' to everything.

 

[Primula]

I always mute all television commercials. I cannot stand them.

 

[foxxycat]

I have many pet peeves. the biggest is getting judged for not having kids.

i am 41 and at 34 had a hyster for medical reasons. I was so relieved after that because I didn't have to play the bc game. Even though the other person was snipped but I always worried about a pregnacy. bc made me sick as a dog. I hate explaining to people what Endometriosis is and the complicated surgery to treat it on top of the expense and its every 2 years. So I get really annoyed at older women who poopoo me because I have been claiming since I was 18 I don't want babies. My mother was bipolar/mental illness. I was TERRIFIED of doing to a child what I went through=let me say=my mother loved me with all her heart and she always told me she loved me-but as a bystander watching her suffer was too much for this young empath. There were many nights spent crying because I couldnt' stop my mothers illness. So I vowed even though I love children and wanted a family I just knew I couldn't pass on my genes to have them live through a chance that I would go insane. My mother didnt get sick until she was in her 30s. I heard she was always emotional but she got worse after I was born. We suspect it started with postpartum depression and stewed for a few years until it morphed into bipolar manic depression. Once she moved into a smaller house in her late 50s early 60s she became more aware of people and took an interest in other lives around her but she still got tired out easily and slept alot after visiting people. I used to be so confused over this but now I am in my 40s I totally understand this exhaustion after going over someone's house/out to eat. Maybe its because mom and I were introverts I don't know but I get so stinking mad at having to defend my reasons for passing up a family. I think that is one reason why I decided to go into welding-men dont ask intrusive questions. They are easy to understand=give them food, music and a dirty joke and they walk around all day with a smile on their face...hah!!

anyways pet peeves

people who judge fat people.

people who believe everything out of the black box in your livingroom without researching=just because a news anchor says its true doesnt mean its true for everyone

news channels putting out propoganda or clickbait articles with missleading headlines=I purposely don't click. I hate how hard some people have to work to undo the lies spread from people who don't bother to find out the facts for themselves but just spit out stuff because their brother or mother or whoever said it was so.

people on the highway who don't get out of my way. the left lane is for passing. if you are not passing someone=I will pass you on the right side and so will the entire line of traffic behind me. so if you see someone coming up and you can move over=move over! This is the biggest pet peeve. The morning commute is 80 to 83. for 10 miles. cops don't bother us because its the entire line=they stop people for leap frogging or cutting people off. but if you are going with the flow of traffic and you dont have a burnt out headlight=they will not bother you. 

people going slow on major routes just because. its a 55 and these nitwits go 40. if you look in your mirror and there's a line of traffic=pick up the pace or pull over. I don't understand why can't people just go with the flow=stay with traffic-don't slow down just to be a dodobird. I see this every day on way home by my town. always some nitwit who races to be front of the pack then slows down. GRRRR. If everyone just stayed at a constant speed without swerving (two mornings ago=a pickup truck almost ran off the road in front of me at 6:45am) and for goodness sake put down the cellphone. and stop swerving and pay attention to what you are doing. this same idiot stopped in the middle of the exit ramp off the highway=people are moving=not safe to STOP! I could have zipped around but I  saw people behind me so I just put up with it. I blew my horn at them when they ran off the road on the shoulder=they woke up and seemed to do better further along=no passing zone so nothing I could do=I don't like passing on single lane roads=I rarely pass on those=not enough space or time.
Thats what happens when you have a tired truck-don't have the umphh anymore.

in public people who are rude to cashiers or other staff. you are not a queen and they don't deserve your attitude. They are humans with issues and deserve respect. speak gently smile and they will return the favor.  family member is often rude to waitstaff. i dont go out to dinner with this said person anymore,

children=I understand they have energy and should be running and singing etc but in a resteraunt they should be quiet and try to eat their dinner without running around bothering other people. I don't mind kids who turn around and stare at me=they are curious. its the ones who yell out and hurt my ears. The parents irk me. they sit at the table scrollin through facebook and ignore the kids. when i was a kid=you didnt read or talk on the phone at the table. if anyone called while we had dinner=I would get into trouble=(of course now I am older=and how would I know they would be calling?) so yeah a bit of a pet peeve=adults more than the kids. the kids don't know any better. they just acting what they know, its the lazy parents that irritate me.

 

[LTS3]

Kind of related to the pet peeve about kids: marriage. I'm happily single but I have relatives of an older generation who constantly ask Mom (they don't speak much English) if I'm married or dating and when Mom says no, they always gasp and ask why not and that I need a man to take care of me and that Mom nees to hurry up and find someone for me and blah blah blah. I've never understood the whole needing a man to take care of me thing. Maybe years ago it was common and even made financial good sense to marry and be provided for. It's 2016 now. Many women in the US and in other countries are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves without a man.

 

[Primula]

Marriage can be nice. God knows it can also be hell. Agreeing to marriage doesn't necessarily mean that you want a man to take care of you. There's a lot more to it than that.

 

[kissthisangel]

Marriage can be nice. God knows it can also be hell. Agreeing to marriage doesn't necessarily mean that you want a man to take care of you. There's a lot more to it than that.

 I'm not married to my DH ( is that what that short-hand is Darling husband?) But if we were it certainly wouldn't be from him taking care of me. Apart from cooking. I do not do that. In fact I could probably burn out the kettle on a bad day. DIY, gardening, finance, me me me.

 

[Primula]

DH is "dear husband". DS is "dear son", etc., etc. SO is "significant other".