The drawings and stories are wonderful. What terrific momentos of dear Kitten. [emoji]10084[/emoji]️
Yes, indeed! Just wonderfulThe drawings and stories are wonderful. What terrific momentos of dear Kitten. [emoji]10084[/emoji]️
So true! Where did I send my Gracie-girl? Too many are quick to say oh she went to heaven or to rainbow bridge. It's not my cup of tea either, although I admit it is comforting to think such things. Might as well, since there's not one damn thing I can do about it :'( It is what it is.
And you know, for all the talk of Rainbow Bridges, and Heaven (or in my case, The Summerlands), even if any one of us could prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that those things are as real as we believe they are, WE STILL MISS THEM AND WANT THEM PHYSICALLY WITH US! That does not, no matter what our understanding, change. We miss them. Always.
And that's one of the hardest things to accept. There's not one damn thing we can do about.
So true! Where did I send my Gracie-girl? Too many are quick to say oh she went to heaven or to rainbow bridge. It's not my cup of tea either, although I admit it is comforting to think such things. Might as well, since there's not one damn thing I can do about it :'( It is what it is.
That's right up there with you have other pets. When someone makes that kind of broad sweeping statement they devalue the pet we loved. It's like a double whammy. It was old, You have other cats and it implies the Just get over it mentality. But for the support here , my husband and a really BFF IRL I would have no real support. The little baby cat laying on my arm is loved. She doesn't replace what my arms ache to hold or fill the empty spot left in our home and lives.Rainbow Bridge is a comforting thought. It has gotten me through some days. I don't know if I truly believe it or not. I want to though. Other days, nothing gets me through it. I keep thinking about that poor person that posted here not long ago after her priest told her that her cat that had just died would not be in heaven. What a horribly unthoughtful thing to say to someone who is obviously in pain and grieving. If there is a heaven and it's without my pets, then I don't want it.
For some reason, the thought of Lucky being on the greeting committee at Rainbow Bridge makes me smile. He always greeted everyone when they came home, after all. Am I deluding myself? Perhaps. But I'm ok with that.
And you are right, Kittens Mom. It doesn't matter how old or young they are, it still hurts. Hearing people say "But he lived to be 16" made me want to smack people.
I couldn't agree with you more! I wouldn't trust anything a catholic priest had to say anyway, but that poor woman, what a horrible thing to say to her when her heart was broken already! With priests like that, who needs the devil? I hope she didn't believe it. Not only is it horribly unthoughtful, he has no clue if what he said was true anyway. None of us know what happens on the other side. We haven't been there yet. If the bible is true, then animals will be there before we will. There are allusions to that in several verses I know of. I remember Billy Graham told a boy his dog would be in heaven, but his explanation was very unclear, as if he was only expressing his opinion.Rainbow Bridge is a comforting thought. It has gotten me through some days. I don't know if I truly believe it or not. I want to though. Other days, nothing gets me through it. I keep thinking about that poor person that posted here not long ago after her priest told her that her cat that had just died would not be in heaven. What a horribly unthoughtful thing to say to someone who is obviously in pain and grieving. If there is a heaven and it's without my pets, then I don't want it.
For some reason, the thought of Lucky being on the greeting committee at Rainbow Bridge makes me smile. He always greeted everyone when they came home, after all. Am I deluding myself? Perhaps. But I'm ok with that.
And you are right, Kittens Mom. It doesn't matter how old or young they are, it still hurts. Hearing people say "But he lived to be 16" made me want to smack people.
Once upon a time not that long ago when someone was dealing with grief they could use an outward sign usually through clothing to signify they were dealing with the death of a loved one. I'm just going to excuse all the social nonsense about what one should and should not do while grieving and just address the right to do so and publicly. Not weeping and fainting but the right to simply ask for some distance.
I couldn't agree with you more! I wouldn't trust anything a catholic priest had to say anyway, but that poor woman, what a horrible thing to say to her when her heart was broken already! With priests like that, who needs the devil? I hope she didn't believe it. Not only is it horribly unthoughtful, he has no clue if what he said was true anyway. None of us know what happens on the other side. We haven't been there yet. If the bible is true, then animals will be there before we will. There are allusions to that in several verses I know of. I remember Billy Graham told a boy his dog would be in heaven, but his explanation was very unclear, as if he was only expressing his opinion.
There was a woman on pet loss board who made that same "but your pets lived to be 14 or more and mine only lived to 8!!" statement. It made me think: what about those whose pets didn't live but a few weeks, or a year or two? How would they feel about her griping her pet only lived to 8? I know she was hurting but you know some things just shouldn't be said. I read some of her old posts and she actually told someone else she hoped they "got over" the death of a family member soon. That's another saying that makes me want to smack people.
I lost my mom 1 1/2 years ago now, and I used to go to this bereavement chat room. Two different idiots, on separate occasions, told me, "well your mom lived to 88!" I left before I cussed them out, but I should have asked "what's your point?" That I have no right to grieve? It's no wonder I like animals more than people most times. I don't understand what is on people's minds when they say thoughtless things like that. I'm still having a hard time dealing with her loss, especially since Christmas and my birthday. I saw no one either day. No one. I can certainly understand why people commit suicide at this time of year.
Sorry for getting off track but I needed to vent.
Here is what I think of as a very apropos analogy: it's like they see you've got this huge gaping wound that's gushing blood, yet they glibly hand you a bandaid? That's insulting to say the least. It's better not to say anything at all than to insult someone who is hurting. I'm sure this won't help but I am so sorry for your loss of dear Kitten. I understand what it's like to lose dear pets. I've lost both parents which was devastating - and in a way losing a pet is worse, And I was close to both my parents, especially mom.
That's right up there with you have other pets. When someone makes that kind of broad sweeping statement they devalue the pet we loved. It's like a double whammy. It was old, You have other cats and it implies the Just get over it mentality. But for the support here , my husband and a really BFF IRL I would have no real support. The little baby cat laying on my arm is loved. She doesn't replace what my arms ache to hold or fill the empty spot left in our home and lives.
When it comes from someone who understands it does help.
Here is what I think of as a very apropos analogy: it's like they see you've got this huge gaping wound that's gushing blood, yet they glibly hand you a bandaid? That's insulting to say the least. It's better not to say anything at all than to insult someone who is hurting. I'm sure this won't help but I am so sorry for your loss of dear Kitten. I understand what it's like to lose dear pets. I've lost both parents which was devastating - and in a way losing a pet is worse, And I was close to both my parents, especially mom.
We filed papers today. You would think that might feel good. The overdose is pretty cut and dry. Instead it's just been a rough day. Husband had a melt down tonight. Someone asked me why I don't just let this all go if it's making us both so miserable. Because we are the only voice our little cat has.
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