I personally don't like the idea of a new wedding ring. Seems like the original should last a lifetime, like the marriage! Unless like my sister did, you spill mercury from a broken thermometer on it, and the gold is destroyed. Or it no longer fits, then you could wear a new ring, with the old one as a necklace.Originally Posted by lizch6699
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Here's another question to ponder too... My mom gets a new 'wedding ring' every couple years or so and I think she has at least 2 or 3. Again this is my personal opinion, but I wouldn't want a whole new ring because what's the point of having an original ring?? If anything I would update my current wedding ring rather than to buy a new ring because there's not much sentimental value. This is a long way in my 'future' but if I do upgrade my future wedding ring I would have the birthstones of my 'future' children put into it.
Or dh lost his first wedding ring shoveling manure in the barn! Finally, we got him a new band, and much more attractive and expensive than the original.
As for upgrading to add kids birthstones, I don't like that idea. Although the kids are certainly a part of the family, the relationship between husband and wife is to be cherished, whether you have kids or not. And when you do have kids, you need to be extra careful to nurture that marriage relationship. Getting a separate ring, or necklace (like I have), with kids birthstones is great-but not incorporated into the wedding ring.
What matters most about your ring is how you feel about it. If a pawn shop ring makes you feel bad, it is no bargain to him! Get a used couch and a second hand car to save money, but if you want a new ring, get a new ring.
Part of a sucessful marriage is getting needs met. If you need a new ring to feel valued, then be sure he understands. If you cannot have a new diamond because of human rights issues, he needs to understand that too.