Brandon,Originally posted by Cougar
Although Im only 17(not getting married till at least 23!), its still interesting to see what girls think about it. Ive randomly lashed out at my x-GF a couple of times, and even punched a couple of holes in the walls. I always apologize after, but that doesn't seem to work too well.
Anyway, Im sure there are girls out there that do the same!
Peace,
Brandon
I can tell you from experience, when men throw things and punch holes in walls, women HATE IT! Its violence, pure and simple. Learn to control your temper! There is absolutely no reason to punch things when you are angry.
The fear is that first you're punching walls in anger, then you're punching her in anger. I was a punching bag for 6 years from a man that swore he loved me, and he always apologized afterwards. Apologies do absolutely nothing to regain trust. He started out punching walls too.
Before you punch a wall, tell her you are too angry to talk, you need to leave, but that you will be back to talk it out. Then go walking, running, bicycling, what ever you need to cool down. And remember to talk it out when you come back!
I have never seen my SO or my father punch anything in anger. And I've been privy to some murderous arguements. They have different ways of dealing with anger. Dad sulks for a number of hours, then takes Mom for a walk so they can discuss it in private. My SO gets very quiet, goes into another room to think, then comes and apologizes for loosing his temper and we discuss the problem.
You'll eventually learn how to deal with your anger. Just remember to argue fairly and don't be goaded into arguing before you are ready.
Sandy