in my house it's my husband so i was curious how it is for everyone else?
i don't mean small decisions but the important one's, who has the last say?
i don't mean small decisions but the important one's, who has the last say?
i disagree, my husband is loving, kind, generous, romatic, my best friend, everything, i am happy to let him make the desisions, it takes a weight off my chest and i trust him to do the right thing.As an advocate, a red flag for signs of abuse is when one partner (usually the husband) has absolute and final say over EVERYTHING. Serious control issues (which I know you don't have Kelly ) are a sign that someone could potentially be abusive in some way, shape, or form. The "what I say goes" mentality can be dangerous. That's the way it was for my parents and, after years of emotional/verbal abuse (inflicted by my father, who made all of the final important decisions- no ifs, ands, or buts), they are divorced. 'nuff said.
Healthy relationships are about compromise
I didn't mean that it is the same way in every relationship, just a general red flag in some.Originally Posted by pandybear
i disagree, my husband is loving, kind, generous, romatic, my best friend, everything, i am happy to let him make the desisions, it takes a weight off my chest and i trust him to do the right thing.
if it is something very important to me then yes, of course we will discuss it but generally i am happy to let him decide, it doesn't bother me at all
Originally Posted by RoseHawke
Totally compromise. There's hardly ever anything that we go in opposite directions about. I never flat out say "no" and he doesn't either. If one or the other doesn't think (whatever) is a good idea, then he/I will attempt to discourage but that's as far as it goes. My thing right now is --- "Now what the devil are you going to do with an old boat that doesn't have a motor in it? We don't really have anyplace to keep it." LOL, he knows this and hasn't been pushing for it but if he really wanted the thing I wouldn't say no.
hey that's okayOriginally Posted by ugaimes
I didn't mean that it is the same way in every relationship, just a general red flag in some.
Sorry, I'm a hard-core feminist and I want my voice heard in a relationship!
NO! BIG decisions are made between both of us. We try to compromise on other things. And Trav doesn't LIKE making decisions so I make most decisions.Originally Posted by neonsohc
pretty much most big decisions are made by me but most of the decisions are compromises between us.
LOL, I love having a couple on here!Originally Posted by Oscarsmommy
NO! BIG decisions are made between both of us. We try to compromise on other things. And Trav doesn't LIKE making decisions so I make most decisions.