Okay, so here is the situation. . .
My boyfriend and I have a friend that we have known for years. About three to four months ago, he hooked up with this girl. Her name is Danielle, and his name is John. At first we were extatic that he was with someone being that it has been a while since his last relationship. . . Then Danielles true colors started to come out... It is one thing to be someone who is over weight, as I am myself, however, I am a nice person, and know what clothes to wear and to not wear. I know that just because they make it in my size, does not necisarily mean it is okay to wear.
She weighs about 300 pounds. She wears clothes that even I at 220 can not fit in. . . Wears shirts that leave her breasts hanging out all over the place, wears jeans that are enitrely toooooooo tight, and make "everything" visible. . . I dont mean to be mean but she always looks like a slob. . . Not only does she dress inappropriately, but she is miserable to be around. . .
We all work on cars, and she has no clue about anything what so ever. She is not very bright, so she will ask the most easily self answered questions at the very wrong times. . . It is like she will not take the time to think about the answer to her question before asking it. . . This has Johns head so swollen its a miracle he can fit through the door. She tells him how smart he is, because she is so dumb, it makes him look like Einstein reincarnate. . .
She complains constantly, about nearly everything in the world. . . She is cold, she is bored, she hates this she hates that. In conversation she is the type of person who always has a family member or herself who has done whatever you have done, ten times better than you or anyone you have ever known. Not to mention she does that stupid high pitched whiney voice when she uses any of the pet names that she has made up for him, and it makes me want to pull my hair out.
John is a genius. He was the kind of guy who could make a square peg fit in a round hole, and make it efficient at the same time. We are in the process of starting a business and want him involved in the workings of our shop, and any time that we have gone to him to talk, he has always been interrupted by her for something stupid, and had to leave. He then does not call us back for DAYS, and then it is on his fifteen munite break at work, and that is no time to discuss business.
Did i mention she has no job? Does nothing all day but sit at home and drink a 24 case of Dr. Pepper???? He pays for everything they do on top of all of his own bills. His car is falling apart and because he has spent all of his money on her Dr. Pepper, he cant afford to fix it or get another one. She also keeps him up till 2, 3, 4, 5 in the morning to go fishing or go wherever it is that she gets the itch to go that night. . . Then he goes to work at 9 am exhausted.
They have been together four months and already she is calling herself his wifey and saying how much she loves him and cant wait to get a house with him and get married. . . It makes me sick to death, not to mention that she is 18 and John is 22, which I think is wrong to begin with. . .
I could go on for days. . . Any time any of us have tried to point out what it is that she is doing, or doing to him, he always comes up with some excuse or comeback. . . I have given up trying to point it out to him. And I dont want to lose him as a friend, so we have been avoiding going anwhere with them, because I am starting to have a hard time holidng my tounge when she is around. . . I dont want to make her cry in public.
I dont want anyone to think I am a bad person for any of this but these are the facts. She is a terrible person, period; and is horrible for him. He has become a jerk to be around. He has even said a few derogatory tings to me insulting my intelligence, because I am a woman, and I kindly reminded him not every woman was like his girlfriend. . .
I dont know what to do. I dont want to lose him as a friend, and I dont like to be mean to people but she really and truly sucks out loud. . . Anyone have any suggestions? Men perhaps???
My boyfriend and I have a friend that we have known for years. About three to four months ago, he hooked up with this girl. Her name is Danielle, and his name is John. At first we were extatic that he was with someone being that it has been a while since his last relationship. . . Then Danielles true colors started to come out... It is one thing to be someone who is over weight, as I am myself, however, I am a nice person, and know what clothes to wear and to not wear. I know that just because they make it in my size, does not necisarily mean it is okay to wear.
She weighs about 300 pounds. She wears clothes that even I at 220 can not fit in. . . Wears shirts that leave her breasts hanging out all over the place, wears jeans that are enitrely toooooooo tight, and make "everything" visible. . . I dont mean to be mean but she always looks like a slob. . . Not only does she dress inappropriately, but she is miserable to be around. . .
We all work on cars, and she has no clue about anything what so ever. She is not very bright, so she will ask the most easily self answered questions at the very wrong times. . . It is like she will not take the time to think about the answer to her question before asking it. . . This has Johns head so swollen its a miracle he can fit through the door. She tells him how smart he is, because she is so dumb, it makes him look like Einstein reincarnate. . .
She complains constantly, about nearly everything in the world. . . She is cold, she is bored, she hates this she hates that. In conversation she is the type of person who always has a family member or herself who has done whatever you have done, ten times better than you or anyone you have ever known. Not to mention she does that stupid high pitched whiney voice when she uses any of the pet names that she has made up for him, and it makes me want to pull my hair out.
John is a genius. He was the kind of guy who could make a square peg fit in a round hole, and make it efficient at the same time. We are in the process of starting a business and want him involved in the workings of our shop, and any time that we have gone to him to talk, he has always been interrupted by her for something stupid, and had to leave. He then does not call us back for DAYS, and then it is on his fifteen munite break at work, and that is no time to discuss business.
Did i mention she has no job? Does nothing all day but sit at home and drink a 24 case of Dr. Pepper???? He pays for everything they do on top of all of his own bills. His car is falling apart and because he has spent all of his money on her Dr. Pepper, he cant afford to fix it or get another one. She also keeps him up till 2, 3, 4, 5 in the morning to go fishing or go wherever it is that she gets the itch to go that night. . . Then he goes to work at 9 am exhausted.
They have been together four months and already she is calling herself his wifey and saying how much she loves him and cant wait to get a house with him and get married. . . It makes me sick to death, not to mention that she is 18 and John is 22, which I think is wrong to begin with. . .
I could go on for days. . . Any time any of us have tried to point out what it is that she is doing, or doing to him, he always comes up with some excuse or comeback. . . I have given up trying to point it out to him. And I dont want to lose him as a friend, so we have been avoiding going anwhere with them, because I am starting to have a hard time holidng my tounge when she is around. . . I dont want to make her cry in public.
I dont want anyone to think I am a bad person for any of this but these are the facts. She is a terrible person, period; and is horrible for him. He has become a jerk to be around. He has even said a few derogatory tings to me insulting my intelligence, because I am a woman, and I kindly reminded him not every woman was like his girlfriend. . .
I dont know what to do. I dont want to lose him as a friend, and I dont like to be mean to people but she really and truly sucks out loud. . . Anyone have any suggestions? Men perhaps???