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Hello everyone! I hope you're having a nice day.
I tend to be a little overly detailed about my posts, but I like all the information to be clear right from the get-go so questions and clarifications can be minimal! So here's the story:
I'm a grown adult, but I live with my parents still. Millennials, I know. Anyways, my whole life, we've kept our cats in pairs. Abby with Maggie, then Sam with Maggie, then Eli with Sam, and then Bliss with Eli. As one would cross the rainbow bridge, the remaining cat would often get depressed and lonely, so we would get a new cat to be their buddy, and for a long time this worked out really well for our cats. They always made friends and obviously enjoyed each other's company.
Sam and Eli were probably the best friends out of all our cats, and Eli was super glum when Sam left us, so we got a young female, Bliss, to be his new friend.
He obviously liked her, but she was skittish. Always was and still is a little. A few years later when he died, we saw something we hadn't before.
Bliss was happy when he was gone. It wasn't like she threw a party or anything, but she calmed down a lot and became way more affectionate. She started to be a real cuddler and became more playful as well.
So she likes to be a single cat, we guess? Some confirmation of this is that sometimes my brother's cat Shiloh comes to room with us when he's away, and boy does Bliss hate her. We have to keep them in separate rooms and stuff towels under the door so Bliss doesn't try to claw her from under the crack. (Shiloh however is an incredibly laid back cat and is happy no matter where she is.)
I only bring this up, because it's obvious that Bliss likes to be an only cat... Most of the time. When she's totally alone, ie when we're all not home, she's obviously lonely. She desperately runs up to greet us when she's been alone and we just came home. We tell her we'd get her a buddy if she'd just be nice to them! We're also used to keeping two cats at a time and if we could rescue another that would be great.
Is there a way to socialize a skittish cat, or do you think it's best to let a single cat be a single cat? It's Bliss' house now, so if that's really whats best for her, she's our top priority. Even if we would like another cat.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts.
I tend to be a little overly detailed about my posts, but I like all the information to be clear right from the get-go so questions and clarifications can be minimal! So here's the story:
I'm a grown adult, but I live with my parents still. Millennials, I know. Anyways, my whole life, we've kept our cats in pairs. Abby with Maggie, then Sam with Maggie, then Eli with Sam, and then Bliss with Eli. As one would cross the rainbow bridge, the remaining cat would often get depressed and lonely, so we would get a new cat to be their buddy, and for a long time this worked out really well for our cats. They always made friends and obviously enjoyed each other's company.
Sam and Eli were probably the best friends out of all our cats, and Eli was super glum when Sam left us, so we got a young female, Bliss, to be his new friend.
He obviously liked her, but she was skittish. Always was and still is a little. A few years later when he died, we saw something we hadn't before.
Bliss was happy when he was gone. It wasn't like she threw a party or anything, but she calmed down a lot and became way more affectionate. She started to be a real cuddler and became more playful as well.
So she likes to be a single cat, we guess? Some confirmation of this is that sometimes my brother's cat Shiloh comes to room with us when he's away, and boy does Bliss hate her. We have to keep them in separate rooms and stuff towels under the door so Bliss doesn't try to claw her from under the crack. (Shiloh however is an incredibly laid back cat and is happy no matter where she is.)
I only bring this up, because it's obvious that Bliss likes to be an only cat... Most of the time. When she's totally alone, ie when we're all not home, she's obviously lonely. She desperately runs up to greet us when she's been alone and we just came home. We tell her we'd get her a buddy if she'd just be nice to them! We're also used to keeping two cats at a time and if we could rescue another that would be great.
Is there a way to socialize a skittish cat, or do you think it's best to let a single cat be a single cat? It's Bliss' house now, so if that's really whats best for her, she's our top priority. Even if we would like another cat.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts.
