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I need some cat behavior help. I recently adopted a very sweet cat to help with my own Depression/Anxiety issues as a little companion. I found a lady who had 3 cats and felt that this cat probably preferred to be an only-cat so was looking to find a good home for her.
This cat is definitely very sweet and affectionate but she is also incredibly needy and almost helpless without me. I play with her (using Da Bird or a shoe-lace) at least 3 times a day for about 10-15 minutes each depending on my schedule that day. However, if she had her way, I would be waving a string around for the entire day. Today I think I played with her a good 6 times to stop the yowling so I could wash a dish or fold a sweater or two. I have toys for her to play with as well as a cat-tree but she refuses to play by herself. She used to play a teeny-bit by herself (but only if the toys were shaped like mice and had cat-nip in them...could not be a cat-nip banana or tea-bag shape) but now she almost acts as if she either has no idea what to do with them or like she cannot see them. I've even hung some of the little mice-toys she likes on string around the house because I swear I saw her bat at them a few times before. But she hardly sees them. (And before you tell me that hanging string is dangerous, I know. I would rather have a cat that is happy/entertained with a shorter life than a cat with increasingly concerning social behavioral issues. At the end of the day, it's a cat.). I know she clearly is bored and waiting for me to somehow entertain her despite the fact that nothing is interesting enough to her...expect of course unless I'm moving it on a string. I'm happy to do that but I also would like to take a few minutes to pee, read a book, or remove a shirt from the floor (seriously, it's that bad). If I have a full day at home, I often deal with this by holding a string or Da Bird toy with me and wash one dish then twirl toy around, wash a second dish, twirl around, empty trash, twirl toy, take trash out to garbage, twirl toy, email client, twirl toy....all...day...long. Let's just say, not a whole lot gets done. it gets worst if I need to tweeze my eye-brows, floss my teeth or tweeze a splinter out. She either does some variation of the whiney meow or she just sits and watches me as she's waiting for me to do something to entertain her. She also does follow me around quite a bit and even wakes up from her nap if I get up to leave the room.
I have taken her to the vet and did blood-tests and she came out just fine. I've tried those laser toys that move on their own but she's only interested in them about 10% of the time. I would love to get another cat or cat-friendly dog to keep her stimulated but her previous owner said she seemed irritated and unhappy living with other cats. She consulted a cat-behavioralist to determine this. Plus, I simply can't afford another pet right now. I did try two versions of the feli-way anti-anxiety stuff: I tried the spray which she hated and the collar which she also hated. Both seemed to just make her pissy. I haven't tried the plug-in so can't say for that. I haven't tried the chews because they only come in chicken flavor which she won't touch.
I know that when I leave for work/errands she doesn't do anything "fun" on her own despite having toys, tunnels and windows to explore. She really just spends the hours either sitting by the door waiting or sleeping under my bed. I can definitely hear her "whine/cry" as I lock the door too. To be honest, I've actually never heard her "happy" or "neutral" meow. I've only ever heard her whiny, crying or demanding meow. I have heard her purr up a storm when she's on my lap or when I come home but I just wish she could be content or happy with her life somehow.
Before you make this comment, please know that I do play with her multiple times per day and probably more often than most cats want or need. She has been to the vet. I feed her only wet food. She refuses to drink water but that's why I stick to the wet food. She has so many toys and most of the stereotypical toys that most cats love, she could care less. Balls don't do it, milk-cap rings don't do it, even condensed cat-nip toys don't really do it.
Any advice to get her to play with her toys on her own? Obviously, I don't want to avoid playing with her and giving her affection but I do want her to be able to entertain herself while I'm busy doing something else. She's not a scaredy-cat. She's quite confident and trusting to the point where she lets me rub her belly and feel like she might eventually be a good cat for a dog to coexist with...in the future. I can turn on the vacuum cleaner, fan or blender and she doesn't even finch.
This cat is definitely very sweet and affectionate but she is also incredibly needy and almost helpless without me. I play with her (using Da Bird or a shoe-lace) at least 3 times a day for about 10-15 minutes each depending on my schedule that day. However, if she had her way, I would be waving a string around for the entire day. Today I think I played with her a good 6 times to stop the yowling so I could wash a dish or fold a sweater or two. I have toys for her to play with as well as a cat-tree but she refuses to play by herself. She used to play a teeny-bit by herself (but only if the toys were shaped like mice and had cat-nip in them...could not be a cat-nip banana or tea-bag shape) but now she almost acts as if she either has no idea what to do with them or like she cannot see them. I've even hung some of the little mice-toys she likes on string around the house because I swear I saw her bat at them a few times before. But she hardly sees them. (And before you tell me that hanging string is dangerous, I know. I would rather have a cat that is happy/entertained with a shorter life than a cat with increasingly concerning social behavioral issues. At the end of the day, it's a cat.). I know she clearly is bored and waiting for me to somehow entertain her despite the fact that nothing is interesting enough to her...expect of course unless I'm moving it on a string. I'm happy to do that but I also would like to take a few minutes to pee, read a book, or remove a shirt from the floor (seriously, it's that bad). If I have a full day at home, I often deal with this by holding a string or Da Bird toy with me and wash one dish then twirl toy around, wash a second dish, twirl around, empty trash, twirl toy, take trash out to garbage, twirl toy, email client, twirl toy....all...day...long. Let's just say, not a whole lot gets done. it gets worst if I need to tweeze my eye-brows, floss my teeth or tweeze a splinter out. She either does some variation of the whiney meow or she just sits and watches me as she's waiting for me to do something to entertain her. She also does follow me around quite a bit and even wakes up from her nap if I get up to leave the room.
I have taken her to the vet and did blood-tests and she came out just fine. I've tried those laser toys that move on their own but she's only interested in them about 10% of the time. I would love to get another cat or cat-friendly dog to keep her stimulated but her previous owner said she seemed irritated and unhappy living with other cats. She consulted a cat-behavioralist to determine this. Plus, I simply can't afford another pet right now. I did try two versions of the feli-way anti-anxiety stuff: I tried the spray which she hated and the collar which she also hated. Both seemed to just make her pissy. I haven't tried the plug-in so can't say for that. I haven't tried the chews because they only come in chicken flavor which she won't touch.
I know that when I leave for work/errands she doesn't do anything "fun" on her own despite having toys, tunnels and windows to explore. She really just spends the hours either sitting by the door waiting or sleeping under my bed. I can definitely hear her "whine/cry" as I lock the door too. To be honest, I've actually never heard her "happy" or "neutral" meow. I've only ever heard her whiny, crying or demanding meow. I have heard her purr up a storm when she's on my lap or when I come home but I just wish she could be content or happy with her life somehow.
Before you make this comment, please know that I do play with her multiple times per day and probably more often than most cats want or need. She has been to the vet. I feed her only wet food. She refuses to drink water but that's why I stick to the wet food. She has so many toys and most of the stereotypical toys that most cats love, she could care less. Balls don't do it, milk-cap rings don't do it, even condensed cat-nip toys don't really do it.
Any advice to get her to play with her toys on her own? Obviously, I don't want to avoid playing with her and giving her affection but I do want her to be able to entertain herself while I'm busy doing something else. She's not a scaredy-cat. She's quite confident and trusting to the point where she lets me rub her belly and feel like she might eventually be a good cat for a dog to coexist with...in the future. I can turn on the vacuum cleaner, fan or blender and she doesn't even finch.