Absolutely! And while he's at it, he can put on his high heels, his string of pearls, and frolic about in the living room with the vacuum a la Donna Reed!!!!!!!Originally Posted by flisssweetpea
So true. So....now that hubby is retired and I'm the breadwinner, should I expect him to put a ribbon in his hair and touch up his make up before I return from work
Although I work outside the home, I couldn't agree with you more...being a housewife and full-time mother is one of the most difficult jobs there are! Sounds like you've done a fine job!Originally Posted by Beach Bum
I'm not sure for whom this was intended, but since I started the thread I will reply.
I had a very happy childhood, moving around all the time, very seldom in any one place for long. My father was a career military officer, and my mother was a housewife, and perfectly happy to be one. Dad was away an awful lot at sea, both before and after WWII. In fact, he was away at sea in the Pacific theater for the whole war. My mom, my brother and I took the first military dependents' ship back to Pearl Harbor when the war ended.
I guess I was so happy as a "service brat" that I married a career military officer myself. I, too, have always been very happy with my life as a housewife, raising three fine sons, and I always found that to be challenge enough. Like my life before my marriage, after Jim and I were married he, like my father, was away from home so very much. He was home for all of eight weeks during the first two years of our marriage, and that was just for starters. His eldest son was six months old when they first met. You might say that I did not have to "put a ribbon in my hair" very often during that first two years.
We moved around before Jim's retirement so much that that by the time that eldest son graduated high school he had attended more schools than he had grades. But the moving was another whole education for our sons -- one which many young people never have the chance to be exposed to. Our sons were always close, perhaps out of necessity, and to this day they are their own best friends. Their children's cousins are like sisters and brothers.
I shall never forget my late mother getting Jim and me aside privately just before our marriage and telling Jim that if I ever complained about his being away so much, as she knew he would be, to let her know and she would be on the next plane and put me over her knee and paddle me good. She really didn't have to say that, because I knew full well what my life would be like, and it was.
I never found it to be demeaning to be a housewife. I thought that was one of the most important and sometimes difficult jobs one could have. Of course I am dating myself, but I still feel that way. When Jim and I were younger there were not so many families with both the husband and wife working, and we know that things are different now. We have three lovely DIL's, all of whom are professionals and who are happy in their professions. The world changes.
Jim and I and our lovely Turkish Vans have lived on our beach now for five years since his retirement. This is the longest we have ever lived in the same town in our 47 years of marriage.
I wouldn't trade my life for any other. It was not right for everyone, but it was right for me.
All the best to you all,
Ann
Those aren't dumb things - those are the little things that let's someone know you care!
Originally Posted by flisssweetpea
So true. So....now that hubby is retired and I'm the breadwinner, should I expect him to put a ribbon in his hair and touch up his make up before I return from work
Don't forget the high heels and pearls!Originally Posted by flisssweetpea
So true. So....now that hubby is retired and I'm the breadwinner, should I expect him to put a ribbon in his hair and touch up his make up before I return from work
My mother used to be like this. She has since made some adjustments and my father being a good man accepts it and has for many years now. She told me this same thing when I got married, and she often laughs at how Brian and I interact.Originally Posted by DixieDarlin256
My mother waits on my father like a maid and I can't stand it. I remember when I was about to get married to my ex husband my mom and I were shopping one day. Out of the blue she tells me "Don't EVER pamper him to the extent I did your dad. Because even after you have children he will expect it no matter what"... She's right! I let both my ex and my current husband's know that I am MANY things to them: wife, partner, best friend, lover, mother to children but I am NOT a maid or servant!
Uh-oh!!!! COMMANDO!!!Originally Posted by emily_325
My mother used to be like this. She has since made some adjustments and my father being a good man accepts it and has for many years now. She told me this same thing when I got married, and she often laughs at how Brian and I interact.
For example...earlier this week Brian tells me that he's out of underwear. I'm not doing it because he's off all this week and at home. So I told him where I keep the soap and dryer sheets and quarters and to have at it. He said okay. That was Monday...it's Thursday. He still hasn't done laundry. I'm not even questioning what he's been doing about underwear and frankly I don't want to know.
I just told him about this thread, and Jan, he says he hadn't forgotten the pearls and high heels along with his sequinned underwear in gold lame material
yep.like i said, before, the idea of making home a happy place to come to, was kinda the point of the whole thing, many of those things apply to both men and women.
