I have 2 cats, Zoot Suit and Riot. Riot I've had longer, she's the absolute best cat in the world. She puts up with anything, has a huge personality, and is friendly to a fault. Everyone loves Riot.
Zoot I've only had about a year. I found her at my old apartments and she just looked like she wanted to be loved, she was always rubbing up against things and although she was scared, she seemed to want attention. I caught her one day after many days sitting outside feeding her and trying to earn her trust. Well, she stayed locked in the bathroom for a while before we finally decided she could come out. She and Riot had their spats at first, but then seemed ok. Then she started hiding under the bed. Now neither my boyfriend nor I can stand that habit, so we tried to nip it in the bud. My technique involved giving her acceptable alternatives and trying to move her to them. My boyfriend's technique one day involved scaring her out from under the bed and chasing her and yelling at her.
It was an awful day, a testosterone induced burst of rage. It's not just him, a lot of guys I know to be calm and kind and totally sane have snapped like I've never seen when an animal won't let them catch it or acts scared of it for no good reason. Heck, even my little brother threw an absolute conniption just the other day because his cow started running from him for no reason. I know that my bf regrets doing it, but now he just absolutely hates the cat.
Zoot is terrified of him. She is sweet as can be to me and my roommate and anyone else really. She's still shy and she doesn't want to be held. She's the kind of cat that wants attention on her own terms and is just skittish.
But bf hates her. He just wants to lock her in a room with just him and nowhere to hide and have her get over it, but I don't know what to do. He would never really hurt her or anything though.
The other day she got out and ran off at night, and he didn't want to go find her with me. I went out searching frantically and when I came inside crying to get a better flashlight, he went outside and found her, but as he said, it wasn't for her, it was for me.
Part of me wants to give her away, because although I love Zoot, I love my bf more and I know how much he doesn't want her. If it were up to him she'd go out and be a barn cat at my parent's house. And I don't want that for her, I happen to think that she's my responsibility no matter what. I like her a lot, because she is sweet to me. But lately she's been getting along worse and worse with Riot, and I'd pick Riot over Zoot any day.
I want Zoot to be happy, and to get along with my bf, but I don't know how to make that happen.
If worse comes to worse I'm going to try to find her a nice quiet home, but nobody wants another cat, especially not one that isn't a kitten and has issues being very shy. She's very cute, and once you get to know her she's got a lovely personality, I just wish my bf could see that.
Zoot I've only had about a year. I found her at my old apartments and she just looked like she wanted to be loved, she was always rubbing up against things and although she was scared, she seemed to want attention. I caught her one day after many days sitting outside feeding her and trying to earn her trust. Well, she stayed locked in the bathroom for a while before we finally decided she could come out. She and Riot had their spats at first, but then seemed ok. Then she started hiding under the bed. Now neither my boyfriend nor I can stand that habit, so we tried to nip it in the bud. My technique involved giving her acceptable alternatives and trying to move her to them. My boyfriend's technique one day involved scaring her out from under the bed and chasing her and yelling at her.
It was an awful day, a testosterone induced burst of rage. It's not just him, a lot of guys I know to be calm and kind and totally sane have snapped like I've never seen when an animal won't let them catch it or acts scared of it for no good reason. Heck, even my little brother threw an absolute conniption just the other day because his cow started running from him for no reason. I know that my bf regrets doing it, but now he just absolutely hates the cat.
Zoot is terrified of him. She is sweet as can be to me and my roommate and anyone else really. She's still shy and she doesn't want to be held. She's the kind of cat that wants attention on her own terms and is just skittish.
But bf hates her. He just wants to lock her in a room with just him and nowhere to hide and have her get over it, but I don't know what to do. He would never really hurt her or anything though.
The other day she got out and ran off at night, and he didn't want to go find her with me. I went out searching frantically and when I came inside crying to get a better flashlight, he went outside and found her, but as he said, it wasn't for her, it was for me.
Part of me wants to give her away, because although I love Zoot, I love my bf more and I know how much he doesn't want her. If it were up to him she'd go out and be a barn cat at my parent's house. And I don't want that for her, I happen to think that she's my responsibility no matter what. I like her a lot, because she is sweet to me. But lately she's been getting along worse and worse with Riot, and I'd pick Riot over Zoot any day.
I want Zoot to be happy, and to get along with my bf, but I don't know how to make that happen.
If worse comes to worse I'm going to try to find her a nice quiet home, but nobody wants another cat, especially not one that isn't a kitten and has issues being very shy. She's very cute, and once you get to know her she's got a lovely personality, I just wish my bf could see that.