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For those of you who do not know I have a seven year-old red tortoise-tabby who I've had for six years. Of course I adore her. She is my best girlfriend and very affectionate--just the most affectionate cat I've ever known.
About five weeks ago I started fostering kittens and adopting them out of my home. I keep them in one room of my house where they can run around and be happy.
Then I fell in love with two little feral kittens who turned almost instantly into lovey doves. I couldn't decide which one I loved the most and I couldn't bring myself to separate them. So I'm adopting them. Now they are in another room overnight, separate from the fosters, and wandering the whole house during the day. I tried having them sleep in the crate in my room but Pixel didn't like that at all.
Pixel tolerates Peek, but not so much Boo. Pixel has chased Boo and in general seems more threatening to him (lots more glaring).
I was hoping this would work itself out but last night Pixel had me in tears.
I put the "kits" to bed and spent some time playing with the fosters like I do every night before heading into my bedroom where Pixel spends most of her time. There I found Pixel almost hiding in the little bathroom in the far corner of my room, she was just crouched there in the middle of the floor, still and unhappy. Very deliberate.
I got down on her level and began petting and talking to her when suddenly she scooted back away from me about two inches and shook her paw at me. She does this when she is telling me she dislikes something, be it a food, or a smell or even something sticky on the floor, etc.
So, essentially she was telling me she disliked ME.
I was stunned, stung. I sat there and saw it all from her perspective and found myself so upset I had a long cry, something I rarely do. The kittens threaten her much more than I had thought.
I got the distinct impression she wanted the "kits" to go away and she was hurt and angry with me. I felt like a cheating spouse--a betrayer! She's been such a good companion, I adore her to no end and I realized I WOULD give up the kittens for Pixel. But I love the kits too......
Oh, she stayed mad at me for a long time. Finally in my talk I told her in a slow pleading voice, 'mommy good' and she jumped up, all perky and did what I wanted which was climb into bed with me.
But what a negotiation that was....the drama is killing me!
About five weeks ago I started fostering kittens and adopting them out of my home. I keep them in one room of my house where they can run around and be happy.
Then I fell in love with two little feral kittens who turned almost instantly into lovey doves. I couldn't decide which one I loved the most and I couldn't bring myself to separate them. So I'm adopting them. Now they are in another room overnight, separate from the fosters, and wandering the whole house during the day. I tried having them sleep in the crate in my room but Pixel didn't like that at all.
Pixel tolerates Peek, but not so much Boo. Pixel has chased Boo and in general seems more threatening to him (lots more glaring).
I was hoping this would work itself out but last night Pixel had me in tears.
I put the "kits" to bed and spent some time playing with the fosters like I do every night before heading into my bedroom where Pixel spends most of her time. There I found Pixel almost hiding in the little bathroom in the far corner of my room, she was just crouched there in the middle of the floor, still and unhappy. Very deliberate.
I got down on her level and began petting and talking to her when suddenly she scooted back away from me about two inches and shook her paw at me. She does this when she is telling me she dislikes something, be it a food, or a smell or even something sticky on the floor, etc.
So, essentially she was telling me she disliked ME.
I was stunned, stung. I sat there and saw it all from her perspective and found myself so upset I had a long cry, something I rarely do. The kittens threaten her much more than I had thought.
I got the distinct impression she wanted the "kits" to go away and she was hurt and angry with me. I felt like a cheating spouse--a betrayer! She's been such a good companion, I adore her to no end and I realized I WOULD give up the kittens for Pixel. But I love the kits too......
Oh, she stayed mad at me for a long time. Finally in my talk I told her in a slow pleading voice, 'mommy good' and she jumped up, all perky and did what I wanted which was climb into bed with me.
But what a negotiation that was....the drama is killing me!