Why is it that whenever I say that I don't want to have kids and that I never will, people belittle my lifestyle choice and say "Someday you'll change your mind." Or "I know someone who was exactly like you. She was career oriented and just as passionate and adamant about not having kids as you and one fine day she got pregnant and now she has kids. I've been there." And I say "No, I mean it. I know myself and I'm not having kids, ever." and then I hear "Yeah right, sure, sure, you'll change your mind someday. You never know." And I say, "I do know." And then people like to grab my goat about it.
I may look young for my age, but what people don't get is that I'm not this young 20 something year old who doesn't know what she wants. I am 32 years old. Usually people in their 30s have a better understanding of who they are and what they want and I know myself. I do not want to have kids ever. I just love my cats. I'm a mom to my cats and I will always choose to have cats over children. I must have my furkids. I do want to have a husband without children so we can enjoy our double income household and do all the wonderful things we want and go all the places we want without kids and have all the pleasures of life we want, without kids. I'm selfish. So what? I enjoy having a good job and making a decent amount of money. And I'm not worried about not having anyone to take care of me when I'm old because that's not a reason to have kids. I will join a retirement home and make friends with other old people when I can no longer care for myself. I'm not against having kids, it's just not for me. But people like to insist my statement is wrong and that I will definitely change my mind when I'm older(Even though after 35 it's not reccommended as much and I'm only 2 and a half years away from that age), and they seem to think that choosing not to have kids is unnatural and that my placing value on having cats over having kids is eccentric. But why don't people believe me? There are people who not only say they don't want children, but stay true to that choice their entire lives and I have a very strong gut feeling in me that I'm definitely one of these people because I've been feeling like this for more than a decade and I haven't changed my mind by now and I doubt I'll change my mind by the age of 40 and beyond. I know myself.
I may look young for my age, but what people don't get is that I'm not this young 20 something year old who doesn't know what she wants. I am 32 years old. Usually people in their 30s have a better understanding of who they are and what they want and I know myself. I do not want to have kids ever. I just love my cats. I'm a mom to my cats and I will always choose to have cats over children. I must have my furkids. I do want to have a husband without children so we can enjoy our double income household and do all the wonderful things we want and go all the places we want without kids and have all the pleasures of life we want, without kids. I'm selfish. So what? I enjoy having a good job and making a decent amount of money. And I'm not worried about not having anyone to take care of me when I'm old because that's not a reason to have kids. I will join a retirement home and make friends with other old people when I can no longer care for myself. I'm not against having kids, it's just not for me. But people like to insist my statement is wrong and that I will definitely change my mind when I'm older(Even though after 35 it's not reccommended as much and I'm only 2 and a half years away from that age), and they seem to think that choosing not to have kids is unnatural and that my placing value on having cats over having kids is eccentric. But why don't people believe me? There are people who not only say they don't want children, but stay true to that choice their entire lives and I have a very strong gut feeling in me that I'm definitely one of these people because I've been feeling like this for more than a decade and I haven't changed my mind by now and I doubt I'll change my mind by the age of 40 and beyond. I know myself.