For those who didn't see my original thread, here's a little background info...
In early October, I trapped a Mom and her 2 kittens in my garage. It took me 4 weeks, but I was finally able to get the kittens in the house using a large carrier (on Oct 31) and then Mom a couple days later using a live trap (Nov 2). All three are now in a spare bedroom. The kittens have full use of the bedroom, but Mom was transferred from the trap to a large crate/cage after she was spayed. So Mom has been in the crate/cage since Nov 4th.
I've owned cats before but this is the first time I've dealt with socializing a feral/semi-feral mom and her kittens. So I have lots of questions. I could use encouragement as well. Some days are very frustrating. I'd like to hear from others who have successfully socialized an adult cat (about 4 yrs old) and her kittens (about 6 mths old).
The kittens are progressing really well - they don't hide under the bed when I enter the room, I can engage them in play, they will lick food off my finger and they're starting to allow me to pet them. I suppose spending time with them every day while they were in the garage helped. Mom, on the other hand, is another story. When they were in the garage, she always hid from me and wouldn't come out to eat until I was gone. It wasn't until the final week or so before I got them in the house that she would make herself visible. But only once did she come down from her hiding spot and join the kittens for food. At that was at a distance of about 3-4 feet.
I'm sure I'll have plenty more, but here are a few questions to start...
In early October, I trapped a Mom and her 2 kittens in my garage. It took me 4 weeks, but I was finally able to get the kittens in the house using a large carrier (on Oct 31) and then Mom a couple days later using a live trap (Nov 2). All three are now in a spare bedroom. The kittens have full use of the bedroom, but Mom was transferred from the trap to a large crate/cage after she was spayed. So Mom has been in the crate/cage since Nov 4th.
I've owned cats before but this is the first time I've dealt with socializing a feral/semi-feral mom and her kittens. So I have lots of questions. I could use encouragement as well. Some days are very frustrating. I'd like to hear from others who have successfully socialized an adult cat (about 4 yrs old) and her kittens (about 6 mths old).
The kittens are progressing really well - they don't hide under the bed when I enter the room, I can engage them in play, they will lick food off my finger and they're starting to allow me to pet them. I suppose spending time with them every day while they were in the garage helped. Mom, on the other hand, is another story. When they were in the garage, she always hid from me and wouldn't come out to eat until I was gone. It wasn't until the final week or so before I got them in the house that she would make herself visible. But only once did she come down from her hiding spot and join the kittens for food. At that was at a distance of about 3-4 feet.
I'm sure I'll have plenty more, but here are a few questions to start...
- What is an appropriate amount of time to spend with them each day? Typically, I spend an hour in the morning feeding and cleaning. In the evening, I spend 2 hrs to feed, clean, play and work on touching/petting. I work from home fulltime, so I'm able to check on them throughout the day, but those are only 15 min visits. They're usually sleeping during those times anyway.
- How long should I keep Mom in the crate? I feel bad keeping her cooped up while her babies have room to move around and play, but I'm not quite ready for that yet. I'd prefer to wait until she stops hissing/growling and striking out at me. She can be very fierce/threatening and has even lunged at me in an attempt to scare me away. I swear, being in the crate is the only thing stopping her from getting a piece of me. I have visions of this cat launching herself at me and/or running out from under the bed and attacking me. I doubt this would happen, but how do I know for sure? I know the kittens would love to cuddle up with mom (I often find them laying next to cage, trying to get close to her). I don't want to let her out too soon, though - I'm making such good progress with the kittens, she may influence them into acting negatively towards me. Will keeping her in the crate awhile longer cause her to become more aggressive?
- Why is Mom the most irritated/aggressive in the morning as compared to other times during the day? When I'm in the room for 2 hrs in the evening, she'll growl and hiss but it's not quite as threatening. She'll even come completely out of her cubby to eat, stretch out and observe me interacting with the kittens, sometimes with me sitting right next to her. She seems very relaxed and tolerates my presence. But in the morning, she's very threatening and makes every attempt to scare me away.
- When Mom strikes out at me, what should my reaction be? Should I completely stop what I'm doing, or wait a couple of minutes and resume doing whatever I was doing at that moment. If I wait long enough, she eventually calms down and I can finish. I don't want to give her the idea that she has the upper hand or that I'm afraid of her, but when she strikes out at me or my hand, it's only natural to flinch.
- Eye contact - I've read not to make direct eye contact as that is a sign of aggression to a feral. However, there are times when I glance in her direction and catch her staring directly at me. She'll hold that stare for about 10 mins. Why is that? Sometimes she'll blink but other times she'll just stare with wide open eyes.