It's RANT time, can't hold it in any longer.
My &%$^% father called yesterday, all chirpy and how are ya, blah blah blah.
Haven't heard from the guy for almost 4 years
He's all ..
-I found your ph # in my wallet and thought I'd see if it worked
(4yrs and this is the first time he saw it gimme a break)
- Heard you're coming over to NZ soon, thought we could see each other. Ok so my sister has gone to Oz now you've no-one to take pity on you and where were you the 2times I went to NZ? Not a word about Manu (my newborn son died last Nov)
I pretty much disowned the guy after no word from him last year.
- You're Mum and I have been talking, can you come out to see me? NO!
Hello, no car!
Besides you can make an effort AND I am pregnant so not driving but you've been talking to Mum so you would know this!
- I've sent you stuff over the last 4 years for birthdays and xmas and never got a thankyou or anything. Japan Post is really good about returning things sent to the wrong address and have even got things with a completely wrong address so BULL! IF he DID send anything at all he probably didn't put the return address on it like the last letter (2001) I got from him.
I mean he's moved twice in the last 4 years and has never let me know his new address or ph number.
I just know that if/when I see him I'm gonna blow my stack at him. Had to be civil on the ph cause Isaac was listening. BTW I'm leaving it up to Isaac to make up his own mind about his Poppa.
Isaac handed me the phone and said "It's you're father, Alan." Note: he didn't say Poppa
After 25 years of half-hearted interest by this guy what do I do. You get mad with him then it's your fault or Mum's fault, he accepts no blame.
My younger brother refuses to talk to him, my sister (the peacemaker) has tried (He spent a week with them last year, mostly at the Pub) and I have refused to make any effort unless he puts in a decent one.
DH reckons its time to call it a day and just tell him to "P*ss off"
What should I do?
My &%$^% father called yesterday, all chirpy and how are ya, blah blah blah.
Haven't heard from the guy for almost 4 years
He's all ..
-I found your ph # in my wallet and thought I'd see if it worked
- Heard you're coming over to NZ soon, thought we could see each other. Ok so my sister has gone to Oz now you've no-one to take pity on you and where were you the 2times I went to NZ? Not a word about Manu (my newborn son died last Nov)
I pretty much disowned the guy after no word from him last year.
- You're Mum and I have been talking, can you come out to see me? NO!
Besides you can make an effort AND I am pregnant so not driving but you've been talking to Mum so you would know this!
- I've sent you stuff over the last 4 years for birthdays and xmas and never got a thankyou or anything. Japan Post is really good about returning things sent to the wrong address and have even got things with a completely wrong address so BULL! IF he DID send anything at all he probably didn't put the return address on it like the last letter (2001) I got from him.
I mean he's moved twice in the last 4 years and has never let me know his new address or ph number.
I just know that if/when I see him I'm gonna blow my stack at him. Had to be civil on the ph cause Isaac was listening. BTW I'm leaving it up to Isaac to make up his own mind about his Poppa.
Isaac handed me the phone and said "It's you're father, Alan." Note: he didn't say Poppa
After 25 years of half-hearted interest by this guy what do I do. You get mad with him then it's your fault or Mum's fault, he accepts no blame.
My younger brother refuses to talk to him, my sister (the peacemaker) has tried (He spent a week with them last year, mostly at the Pub) and I have refused to make any effort unless he puts in a decent one.
DH reckons its time to call it a day and just tell him to "P*ss off"
What should I do?