My nephew is getting married for the second time. Both he and his fiance were married before, both have children, and they've been living together since late last year. They recently bought a gorgeous house down around the Chesapeake Bay area and are getting married in December. We are going down for the wedding and are staying for the weekend at a local hotel in the area. We did that for his first wedding as well. We're driving down and my brother and SIL will go with us.
I just received my bridal shower invitation and was told where she has registered (Williams Sonoma). Now, I don't know if it's just me, but I have an "issue" with this. Do people go all out for the second wedding like they did for the first one? With the bridal showers and all that? This is a bridal shower brunch on a Sunday morning. I talked to my SIL last night; she is not going as she thinks it's a little on the tacky side, as do I, to be honest. We spent a small fortune for the last shower and wedding, plus a weekend at a hotel so that we could attend. Same thing this time. I don't have a problem with the wedding and we're going to attend, plus spend the weekend. I do have a problem with this huge bridal shower though.
But I don't want to do anything that will upset my sister either. And I'm thinking that if I don't go, it could cause some problems. But it's pretty much an all-day affair because it will take well over 3 hours just to get there, spend the time there, and then another 3+ hours to drive back home. I don't want to go. Do they go all out for second marriages now? My understanding is this is going to be every bit as lavish as the first one, although on a slightly smaller scale. Would it be OK, do you think, to not attend the shower, send my regrets (email, which is what they want), and then spend a bit more on the wedding present to compensate? Or send the shower gift along with my sister? I'm at a loss for now.
I just received my bridal shower invitation and was told where she has registered (Williams Sonoma). Now, I don't know if it's just me, but I have an "issue" with this. Do people go all out for the second wedding like they did for the first one? With the bridal showers and all that? This is a bridal shower brunch on a Sunday morning. I talked to my SIL last night; she is not going as she thinks it's a little on the tacky side, as do I, to be honest. We spent a small fortune for the last shower and wedding, plus a weekend at a hotel so that we could attend. Same thing this time. I don't have a problem with the wedding and we're going to attend, plus spend the weekend. I do have a problem with this huge bridal shower though.
But I don't want to do anything that will upset my sister either. And I'm thinking that if I don't go, it could cause some problems. But it's pretty much an all-day affair because it will take well over 3 hours just to get there, spend the time there, and then another 3+ hours to drive back home. I don't want to go. Do they go all out for second marriages now? My understanding is this is going to be every bit as lavish as the first one, although on a slightly smaller scale. Would it be OK, do you think, to not attend the shower, send my regrets (email, which is what they want), and then spend a bit more on the wedding present to compensate? Or send the shower gift along with my sister? I'm at a loss for now.