Hello, I am new to the forum. I found you through a link about post-adoption anxiety/kitty-blues, where I found the most thoughtful and supportive responses. So I decided to post this question here and see what you think. Well, in my case, I have incredible pre-adoption anxiety to the point of analysis-paralysis and non-action. I already "missed" out on an incredible cat as someone else adopted him when I "froze". It is now 3 weeks later and I found and fell in love with another cat (local shelter again), even got stuff for him to adopt him, and then panicked the night before and didn't. This can't be normal, can it? I've had cats before, my family had cats, but they were all kittens when we got them. I now want an adult cat, a companion since I live alone, and am scared of potential problems that I actually haven't experienced in the past. But I have no history on this cat except that he was found on the streets (probably abandoned on purpose), so I am envisioning all sorts of problems in advance that will only contribute to my anxiety. I am naturally anxious so I also worry that I will make my cat anxious unless I can find the "right" personality, a chill cat who will be "in my face" no matter what's going on inside me. I feel illogical, and I'm not 20 or even 30. I'm older and paralyzed by fear of what may go wrong after the adoption. Anyways, I can't seem to make a decision either way. My question is - is this pre-adoption anxiety normal? Or does it mean that I simply should not adopt. Thank you for any comments.