My father is passing

jennyr

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I just had a phone call from my sister. My 98 year-old father, who has been in a nursing home for three years, has slipped into a semi-conscious state, and the medical advice is that he has only days left. He has not been eating or drinking on his own for some weeks, anad is stick-thin. He has not known my mother or any members of the family for a long time, although until recently he was smiling at visitors. I last saw him in October, when I went back to the UK for my niece's wedding.
My mother and sister are going to the Home this afternoon, but the family are all agreed that it is better that he be allowed to slip away quietly. He has had no quality of life for a long time, a shadow of the man we once knew. But your vibes would be appreciated for my mother, for whom this represents a massive emotional change. They would have been married for 70 years this coming July.
 

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I'm sorry Jenny. Such a hard thing for your family. I wish your mother lots of strength in the coming days. :hugs:
 

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Jenny, my prayers are with your father that he will be comfortable and not afraid. My prayers are with you, your mother, and your family that God will comfort you all.
 

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My prayers are with you, your family, and for your father passing to be easy.  Dementia is so hard for the family to deal with.  My father had it for five years before his passing, I would feel guilty for not making the trip home to see him but there just seemed no point in making the trip. He was the only family left in Kansas and it just seemed pointless.
 

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Jenny, my prayers are with you and your family. My father passed away in October under similar circumstances. My parents had been married 61 years. Even when you're expecting it and you're ready to let them go, it's still hard. :hugs:
 

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Jenny- I am sorry :hugs: Ninety-eight years - what a life he must have led and such a long, happy marriage - almost 70 years. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. :vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes:
 

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I 'm sorry. Prayers for you and your family

 Wow.  97 years old.  And your parents married for almost  70 years

cheryl
 

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I'm so sorry, Jenny. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. 
 
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Thank you all. He is sinking fast tonight. My mother, sister and one of my brothers are with him, but he is unconscious.
 
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I'm sorry about your father, Jenny.  Many hugs to you and your family during this difficult time .
 

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I am sorry to hear about your father. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family. 
 

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I'm so sorry, Jenny. :hugs: You and your family are in my thoughts. :heart2:
 
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