This past year my husband and I got married and moved in together. Previously, my cats were living at my parents house. When we would go over there, we would always sit with the cats and pet them and visit them, neither cat had any issues with my hubby (Tye), however, when we moved them into our new apartment, for no apparent reason, my male cat (Taz - 6 years old) became extremely aggressive towards him. At first I thought he was just nervous in the new place and would calm down after some time to adjust but he has not (he has been living with us now for over a month with no change in his behavior). When my husband is not home, he is the sweetest, snuggliest cat - he lays in my lap and purrs and purrs, but as soon as Tye gets home he completely changes, runs into his house in the corner and hisses and howls - he will not come out for anything, and if Tye speaks, or moves he will immediately begin hissing and growling (even if Tye is nowhere near him). If Tye gets anywhere near his house - his growls get more intense and it almost sounds like he is screaming - like he is being injured but no one is anywhere near touching him - and Tye has never once done anything to hurt him. (you all know that sound a cat makes when you accidentally step on his tail or something, it sounds like that, but prolonged, until Tye walks away)
We have tried so many things to get him to stop acting like this and we are getting to the end of our rope - If we can't get him to stop he will not be able to live with us. We have tried everything from completely ignoring him, to Tye trying to feed him treats and his favorite food (ham - which he will poke his head out to take, and eat while still growling) - and also having Tye pet him while I hold him (which he will sometimes allow for a moment, but will always end up just hissing and running away) He just cannot seem to get used to Tye's presence.
He has not yet been physically aggressive towards Tye - meaning that he has not actually scratched or bit him. He has taken a few swipes, but has not ever connected them with skin, and Tye mentioned that when he does swipe, his claws do not appear to be out (I don't know what the reason for that is)
If ANYONE has experienced something like this before please - any advice would be appreciated. All of the tips out there seem to be specific only to certain types of aggression, and nothing is ever mentioned that seems to fit our situation. We are willing to try literally anything to keep this cat, he is my baby and it kills me that he is unhappy and it's also making my husband very uncomfortable, he feels like he has to tiptoe around his own house. He has been extremely patient, but I can tell it is wearing him down, and at some point I know he is going to ask me to get rid of this cat (and I wouldn't really blame him if he did) I don't want it to come to this, but right now we are all so miserable with this situation, something has to change.
(sorry I know it's a lot to read, all replies are appreciated)
We have tried so many things to get him to stop acting like this and we are getting to the end of our rope - If we can't get him to stop he will not be able to live with us. We have tried everything from completely ignoring him, to Tye trying to feed him treats and his favorite food (ham - which he will poke his head out to take, and eat while still growling) - and also having Tye pet him while I hold him (which he will sometimes allow for a moment, but will always end up just hissing and running away) He just cannot seem to get used to Tye's presence.
He has not yet been physically aggressive towards Tye - meaning that he has not actually scratched or bit him. He has taken a few swipes, but has not ever connected them with skin, and Tye mentioned that when he does swipe, his claws do not appear to be out (I don't know what the reason for that is)
If ANYONE has experienced something like this before please - any advice would be appreciated. All of the tips out there seem to be specific only to certain types of aggression, and nothing is ever mentioned that seems to fit our situation. We are willing to try literally anything to keep this cat, he is my baby and it kills me that he is unhappy and it's also making my husband very uncomfortable, he feels like he has to tiptoe around his own house. He has been extremely patient, but I can tell it is wearing him down, and at some point I know he is going to ask me to get rid of this cat (and I wouldn't really blame him if he did) I don't want it to come to this, but right now we are all so miserable with this situation, something has to change.
(sorry I know it's a lot to read, all replies are appreciated)