Cin, I've been in this position, and really understand your feeling of being "numb". Your mom will be in my thoughts.
My Mom chose to stay close to home for her treatment, although I wanted her to go to a large city with a teaching hospital so she could get the best care. But as a nurse, she wanted to be treated by a doctor she knew, and she ended up getting very good care. If your Mom wants to come to Winnipeg, she should do it. Maybe her doctor in Vancouver can give her a referral to a good oncologist (cancer doc) in Winnipeg.Originally Posted by Loveysmummy
She isn't staying in Vancouver though. SHe is originally from Winnipeg and she has decided she wants to come back here for treatment (even though I hear they have better doctors there so this had me worried). I told her I would come there today! But she didn't want me to....She doesn't even want me to come help sort her stuff out to pack up..
You will know soon enough. And you will find you still have a million questions!Originally Posted by Loveysmummy
I just feel helpless not knowing what KIND of cancer it is actually or as someone asked here "what stage its in" ...I am afraid I have no idea. I will know more next week when I can hopefully talk to the doctors here..Thanks for all of your support in that.
I will stick by her like glue and bother the doc with a thousand questions.
I agree 100%! Wait until you know what you are looking for, Cindy!Originally Posted by Loveysmummy
I urge those of you who are going through this and don't know alot of information yet not to attempt to gather information from the internet as you often see alot of clinical, depressing statistics that you can't possibly understand and may make things seem worse...
Do be strong and brave for your Mom. But also share your feelings with her honestly. Let her know she is free to grieve this diagnosis with you. But do remind her there is hope!Originally Posted by Loveysmummy
Although, what someone said here about attitude is right I think. I did read an online essay by a Harvard Prof. who was diagnosed with a fatal kind of cancer where his prognosis was only 8 months. He researched the disease thoroughly and said that he would beat this thing mainly on attitude alone, as in "I WON'T GIVE UP". And I think it was years later and he is still alive.
Thanks to all who said that NUMB was "normal"
I feel that I can scream and yell on my own time and when my mum is around, that this attitude may be more helpful. I really want to give her the impression that we will get over this.
I will be watching for updates. Ongoing prayers for your Mom, Cindy, and for Journey and Yasmine's Moms!Originally Posted by Loveysmummy
Thanks again all, I will keep you updated as the week goes on.. I may not learn more about the specifics until next week. I am afraid to ask but its something I have to do...
Wow, that was amazing Cyberkitten.Originally Posted by CyberKitten
When cancer strikes a family, children sense that something is wrong, even if they don't know what it is. Talking it over with them, in words they can understand, is always better than hiding it. If you keep things from them, children think that things are worse than they really are.