Wasn't particularly clear either way
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Moving in with fiancee and she wants to get rid of my cat?
- Thread starter catmongler
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Here's a compromise: you will scoop daily to keep litterbox odors at bay (and use a tidy cat litter fresher powder) and completely change the litter once a week, you will use litter pan liners so that odors & waste does not "stick" to your box, you will agree to keep the kitty out of the bedroom area, this way it will keep her allergies at bay in your bed area. To do this all you do is close the door. Maybe include other areas, like the bathroom....just close the door. If the cat sits in one area (mine sit on the back of the couch) you will get a "cat mat" or cat throw, so that when she lays on it and gets fur dander on it, you can wash it in the washing machine every couple of days. You can get an air purifier to help with allergens & cat dander in the air, you can use All Free & Clear detergent, which will get rid of cat dander & fur on you laundry. You will buy a new vaccuum with a hepa filter (mine is an Optima it weighs 10lbs for $56 at walmart) and vaccuum daily to reduce cat hair. She will agree to see her dr about her "allergies" and get on some type of daily allergy reducer like allegra or cingulair.
BUT, you will not "get rid" of your companion that you LOVE just because she says so....who knows, maybe the cat will want you to "get rid" of her cause of her insensativity or lack of compassion for another living being....
BUT, you will not "get rid" of your companion that you LOVE just because she says so....who knows, maybe the cat will want you to "get rid" of her cause of her insensativity or lack of compassion for another living being....
short & to the point Bruce!
I think that you and your fiance need to have a long talk and reach some sort of compromise, not only in regards to this kitty, but to any others that may come across your path in the future. If she is that much against this cat, what happens in the event that this one passes on? Unfortunately, it is something that needs to be addressed because the differences between the two of you as individuals aren't going to disappear... they must be worked out in a way that makes both of you happy. If you are happy not having any other cats in your life, then that is fine... but if you do, a compromise is in order. Don't give up on your happiness for the sake of someone else's. If you are in a loving, healthy relationship there is no reason why something can't be worked out.
In a way it sounded like he was looking for someone to tell him what he wanted to hear. The truth and reality is that a part of love is accepting everything...including the cat and maybe the silly manniquen head with sungalsses and a fisherman's hat on it...Originally Posted by halfpint
I don't understand why some people ask for advice and then never come backWhat's up with that? It happens alot to. But if no one replied they would be saying no one cared enough to try and help go figure
Conspiracy theory anyone?
Wow.
There isn't anything I could possibly add to the excellent advice given here, except to tell your fiancee not to let the door hit her where the good Lord split her.
There isn't anything I could possibly add to the excellent advice given here, except to tell your fiancee not to let the door hit her where the good Lord split her.
Oohh!!! I've not heard this one before!!! Love the rhyming!Originally Posted by Candlemaven
Wow.
There isn't anything I could possibly add to the excellent advice given here, except to tell your fiancee not to let the door hit her where the good Lord split her.
Originally Posted by Candlemaven
Wow.
There isn't anything I could possibly add to the excellent advice given here, except to tell your fiancee not to let the door hit her where the good Lord split her.
Originally Posted by Candlemaven
Wow.
There isn't anything I could possibly add to the excellent advice given here, except to tell your fiancee not to let the door hit her where the good Lord split her.
