Gavin and I first met in Japan--where he went to get away from his family!
The first time I ever talked to his mom was on the phone. He was out and I answered the phone in his apartment. She said "Oh Im so glad I finally get a chance to talk to you. Listen, do me a favor. Can you please tell Gavin that Natalie, one of his best friends was killed in a car accident last night? I have some errands to run. Thanks! Bye!" We had only been dating six weeks at the time, and she felt it was perfectly reasonable to ask me to break news like that to him!
He was so mad at her for asking to do that they didnt talk for six months!
Right now we are buying a house and everytime we get some details (financial, etc) worked out, his mother calls up and spends 45 minutes on the phone. My husband says nothing, she just talks the whole time. Then when he hangs up his attitude changes completely to whatever his mother just said! It takes me DAYS to undo the damage this woman does! We just got married, so its taking him awhile to feel comfortable in his married man identity and opposing his mom. It will get better, I know. He's just so nervous about buying a house that her crazy opinions, delivered with such confidence, actually make sense. (Im considering blocking her number until after we close!
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I guess I should also say this is mother is one of the most opinionated, strong-willed and pro-active women I've ever met. God truly broke the mold with her. She says she wants Gavin to be independent, but she does everything possible to undermine his decisions and make him second-guess himself. Sometimes I just want to get me and Gavin as far away from her as possible--maybe back to Japan? New Zealand?
Does anyone else have some MIL whoppers?
Right now we are buying a house and everytime we get some details (financial, etc) worked out, his mother calls up and spends 45 minutes on the phone. My husband says nothing, she just talks the whole time. Then when he hangs up his attitude changes completely to whatever his mother just said! It takes me DAYS to undo the damage this woman does! We just got married, so its taking him awhile to feel comfortable in his married man identity and opposing his mom. It will get better, I know. He's just so nervous about buying a house that her crazy opinions, delivered with such confidence, actually make sense. (Im considering blocking her number until after we close!
I guess I should also say this is mother is one of the most opinionated, strong-willed and pro-active women I've ever met. God truly broke the mold with her. She says she wants Gavin to be independent, but she does everything possible to undermine his decisions and make him second-guess himself. Sometimes I just want to get me and Gavin as far away from her as possible--maybe back to Japan? New Zealand?
Does anyone else have some MIL whoppers?