hmmm......actual gifts that i pick out or gift cards.
most times i either bake something or give a gift card, sometimes both. if it's someone who has a cat or dog, i'll include gifts for them too.
No, a woman usually only has one baby shower no matter how many kids she subsequently has. If a friend has a child though one does buy a gift subsequently even if there is no baby shower. Baby showers are good, I think. Helps the mother get a ton of stuff she needs for her 1st baby.I guess you have to do this for every child the couple have?
I suppose that kind of makes sense, but I've never heard that before. Definitely not in the Midwest! Any excuse for a hen party, dontcha know . I've gone to baby showers for the 5th kid. Of course you give more consumables like diapers and formula, not stuff like clothes and furniture, but goodness, if there's no baby party the ladies won't know what to do with themselves!No, a woman usually only has one baby shower no matter how many kids she subsequently has. If a friend has a child though one does buy a gift subsequently even if there is no baby shower. Baby showers are good, I think. Helps the mother get a ton of stuff she needs for her 1st baby.
In Japan the guests are expected to pay for the wedding. If you get invited you have to take a long a cash gift of either 30,000 or 50,000 yen, depending on how well you know the couple. It's bad luck to give even amounts of money, 20 or 40, because this can be easily divided in two and symbolises separation. The money all goes to pay for the dresses (Almost always rental) hire of the wedding hall, food and drink and what have you. A Japanese wedding costs upwards of 2 million yen. Stupid amount of money to spend, IMO.
Most of the time, I prefer to give gifts - I like the wrapping and decorating aspect on top of being able to give something more special/personal!
I find requesting money is rude and greedy. The last two weddings I've been to were cash - and it was explained that it was to also help pay FOR the wedding. I'm sorry, but if you want a wedding, let alone a big one, that is your responsibilitydon't make everyone else foot the bill. They are your guests, not a free pay day. And it was worse for one of them, the father of the bride requested up to a $400 cash gift from each person. Thankfully my grandmother became quite stern with that request.
That makes sense. I guess no one needs a second crib or changing table once their first baby has outgrown it.No, a woman usually only has one baby shower no matter how many kids she subsequently has. If a friend has a child though one does buy a gift subsequently even if there is no baby shower. Baby showers are good, I think. Helps the mother get a ton of stuff she needs for her 1st baby.
Not in the Deep South, either. Lord, I wouldn't be the least surprised to get a baby shower invitation for the neighbor's cat. We're talking cheese straws and sausage balls here, any excuse to have those is a good one. And any shower of any sort without at least one of the two is judged a sad affair.I suppose that kind of makes sense, but I've never heard that before. Definitely not in the Midwest! Any excuse for a hen party, dontcha know. I've gone to baby showers for the 5th kid. Of course you give more consumables like diapers and formula, not stuff like clothes and furniture, but goodness, if there's no baby party the ladies won't know what to do with themselves!
Haha, around here it's hotdish and some kind of Jello-based salad.Not in the Deep South, either. Lord, I wouldn't be the least surprised to get a baby shower invitation for the neighbor's cat. We're talking cheese straws and sausage balls here, any excuse to have those is a good one. And any shower of any sort without at least one of the two is judged a sad affair.
Huh. That's no shower atall. Gots to have the cheese straws and the sausage balls. But then, you're South Dakota, and I'm South.Haha, around here it's hotdish and some kind of Jello-based salad.
Ugh I'm no good with games! I only did them for my best friend's shower because SHE likes them!
I got pregnant at 16 and we got married. I was working at our local hospital back then, after school as a kitchen slave. One of my co-workers had a baby shower for me. It was the only one I had and I thought it was wonderful. She had never given one and had no idea what to do with it. I had never been to one, so I had no idea what to expect. There were no games; she didn't know she had to have any. We had punch and she had ordered a gorgeous cake. Afterward, I opened gifts and they were wonderful. I think there were about 20 people there. I never expected a thing, so when Rick said that we were going out for an early dinner, I believed him. I thought it was a grand shower!
(And I made sure I wrote Thank You notes for the wedding gifts and for the baby shower gifts! My grandmother made sure of that!)
Back then, the grandmother-to-be was not allowed to do a baby shower for her daughter. I think it was OK for an aunt or a cousin or a GF to have one, but the grandmother-to-be could not. Now? When both of my nieces got pregnant, my sister and BIL had the baby showers for them. Very simple, at a local Italian restaurant that had a banquet room. I contributed toward the costs for both of them, but they were the ones who had the showers. We talked about etiquette for showers and I said I'd just have them, but my sister was adamant that she would do them.
I have heard that before! Thats a cute way to put it for a second baby.(those here are typically called a baby sprinkle).
One that isn't a gift card. Like a movie, books etc.What is a physical gift...?
One that isn't a gift card. Like a movie, books etc.