This week's question is inspired by the numerous baby shower invitations I have coming in lately!
Do you prefer to give physical presents or cash/gift cards as gifts?
I have always preferred giving a gift. The only exception is my teenage nieces and nephews who are in that hard to shop for stage.
Money is simpler; but feels impersonal. Sometimes I feel like I can put together a nice gift for less than a nice cash gift.
I don't have any problems with shopping off a baby or bridal registry as long as the items are reasonably priced.
My cousin's registry didn't have much that was below $40! But it also didn't have much to begin with. So I looked at what their decor was and what they had gotten and put together a sweet little package myself (books, a blanket, etc). The invitation I got today (baby shower) said that they are registered at Target but "monetary gifts are preferred."
I have known the mom-to-be for close to 20 years and her mother is a good friend of my mother's. But boy that leaves a sour taste in my mouth. I don't like it.
I see registries as suggestions for what they want or need. It feels...greedy to tell people you want cash. I don't know that they are like that. I enjoy chatting with her from time to time; but we aren't close. I don't understand it. I have received one wedding invitation with a similar request; but at least done a bit more tactfully. They used a little poem to explain that they didn't need things for their home because they already had them. So that was a little more understandable. This shower is for a first-time-mom.
I don't know. Is this a new generational thing and I'm old fashion? (This girl is close to my age, so over 30.) Maybe either way its asking for gifts. But when she got married I was invited to her bridal shower but not her wedding. That was awkward because I didn't know until the middle of the shower that invitations had already been sent out and i was not to be included. People were discussing the venues and invitations and i was like
. I had forgotten about that until just now to be honest.
My best friend was almost 5 months pregnant when she moved overseas. We hosted a shower for her and put a little note inside saying that because their home was already packed for moving when they found out about their pregnancy; they would only be able to take what they could put in their luggage or they'd have to ship it themselves. I forget the exact wording; but somehow we phrased it that gifts were not requested and we were celebrating their upcoming arrival while she was still with us. That's a different circumstance than this baby shower. I'm not sure I will attend.
Do you prefer to give physical presents or cash/gift cards as gifts?
I have always preferred giving a gift. The only exception is my teenage nieces and nephews who are in that hard to shop for stage.
I don't have any problems with shopping off a baby or bridal registry as long as the items are reasonably priced.
I don't know. Is this a new generational thing and I'm old fashion? (This girl is close to my age, so over 30.) Maybe either way its asking for gifts. But when she got married I was invited to her bridal shower but not her wedding. That was awkward because I didn't know until the middle of the shower that invitations had already been sent out and i was not to be included. People were discussing the venues and invitations and i was like
My best friend was almost 5 months pregnant when she moved overseas. We hosted a shower for her and put a little note inside saying that because their home was already packed for moving when they found out about their pregnancy; they would only be able to take what they could put in their luggage or they'd have to ship it themselves. I forget the exact wording; but somehow we phrased it that gifts were not requested and we were celebrating their upcoming arrival while she was still with us. That's a different circumstance than this baby shower. I'm not sure I will attend.