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Our rent is pretty steep (but good for the neighborhood!) SO's income is three times as much as mine. We were splitting the rent something like 60/40, but that wasn't really working out for me and it meant he had to pay for EVERYTHING else because I was so short on money. Now he's paying all of it, with the agreement that we split everything else (like going out, bills, whatnot). Before you answer, consider that even after he pays all of the rent, he is still left with more money for the month than me.
I don't necessarily feel so comfortable with this, because I feel kind of like a freeloader, but before I was giving him 3/4ths of my income towards rent, and I didn't like that very much either.
We talked about it, and he is the one who suggested the current arrangement and then insisted after I said that wasn't really what I meant. I was trying only to point out that I was left unable to afford things like my asthma medicine, which meant he had to pay for them (and he did, uncomplainingly).
I'm trying to view the situation as my money is our money, his money is our money, and so long as everything gets paid for it doesn't really matter.
How do you guys split rent/mortgage? Do you just throw all the money together and spend from there, or throw some of your money together and keep separate some of it?
To preanswer some questions: Yes, we plan on being together for life and are looking at marriage sometime in the next few years, and we are both pretty equally responsible with money so nobody needs to 'babysit' the other. The only other bill we share is electric, and the heat is gas, so I will be paying the electric bill (about 30/mo).
I have no problem paying what is fair, and neither does he, but I want to do this the right way. Before now, I had more money and I was happy to pay more, but I don't want him to start being resentful (and I don't think HE will, but I think I might if the shoes were switched, but then he's a better person than me
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I don't necessarily feel so comfortable with this, because I feel kind of like a freeloader, but before I was giving him 3/4ths of my income towards rent, and I didn't like that very much either.
We talked about it, and he is the one who suggested the current arrangement and then insisted after I said that wasn't really what I meant. I was trying only to point out that I was left unable to afford things like my asthma medicine, which meant he had to pay for them (and he did, uncomplainingly).
I'm trying to view the situation as my money is our money, his money is our money, and so long as everything gets paid for it doesn't really matter.
How do you guys split rent/mortgage? Do you just throw all the money together and spend from there, or throw some of your money together and keep separate some of it?
To preanswer some questions: Yes, we plan on being together for life and are looking at marriage sometime in the next few years, and we are both pretty equally responsible with money so nobody needs to 'babysit' the other. The only other bill we share is electric, and the heat is gas, so I will be paying the electric bill (about 30/mo).
I have no problem paying what is fair, and neither does he, but I want to do this the right way. Before now, I had more money and I was happy to pay more, but I don't want him to start being resentful (and I don't think HE will, but I think I might if the shoes were switched, but then he's a better person than me