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Sorry, I accidentally posted my last reply without finishing it. I can't love another cat until I've at least accepted that my old one is gone, and I realise now that I haven't come to terms with that at all. I want my cats to be the happiest in the world, but I just wasn't in a position to give those kittens that xxLove is not an instant happening, it develops over time. Those two can be a great distraction for your heart if you let them, don't even try to 'feel' anything for them, that will come later, maybe much later. I even resented the cats that were with me when my soulmate died, but that definitely changed over time. Now I am so thankful I have them in my life. if you rehome them you will end up feeling guilty and heartsick over that. step back, take a deep breath, and just get through the day. Your sweet black little one would be honored to know that what they taught you about love would be passed on. Go forward and live your life as you would have wanted your loved one to go on if you were the first to go, not in despair and tears, but seeking life's beauty. Grief is something you never get over but get through. Those two babies you have now understand, and they will love you anyway. Do not dwell on your grief it brings nothing but heartache. Never think of those two as a replacement, as filling the emptiness inside of you, that can never be, but they can be there simply as a friend to be beside you, something to help you get into a routine, something as a distraction from your grief just for a little while. You need so very much to be needed right now. you just don't realize how much you need someone to just be there, to need you. To fill your days and give your poor heart a break from the misery. Believe it or not, new human parents go through a lot of what you are going through too. It is so overwhelming at first. You have to bond and get to know them first. Affection and love comes later.......