*Takes a deep breath*
Ok I didn't read all of the posts but I can definatly relate to your situation.
My soon to be ex husband was the same way.
I would get blamed for his drinking by his mother ALL THE TIME!
No matter what, I couldn't make him happy.
Clean house, quiet kids, good job, money in the bank... you name it.. It didn't make him happy and I was the reason he drank.
I thought for the longest time that it was true too!
I know you're seeing a Dr and want him to see a marriage councilor but you can't help someone who doesn't want help.
Especially when he has an enabling family member like his mother.
I would suggest that you find a babysitter and take some time for yourself.. without your husband around and do some soul searching yourself.
I know you have children with him and will always have ties to him but you need to think of yourself and then the children.
I say yourself first because if your mind isn't straight then you won't be able to to cope with the situation for your kids.
I was in this SAME situation for 5 years and finally got out of it.
I am now a single working mom with a NICE car, NICE house, GOOD job (hot boyfriend
) and it's all because I got my mindset on the right track.
There isn't a thing you're thinking that I didn't about my husband's drinking.
I too had my soon to be ex DH come home with hickeys, without his wedding band and with a woman's phone # in his wallet.
I thought it was all my fault!
That the house wasn't clean enough, that I had let myself go, that maybe the kids were getting on his nerves... you name it, I thought it!
If you EVER need to talk, please PM me. I have been in your situation not too long ago and I am willing to help you with ANYTHING you need!
Heck, you can even call me!
Ok I didn't read all of the posts but I can definatly relate to your situation.
My soon to be ex husband was the same way.
I would get blamed for his drinking by his mother ALL THE TIME!
No matter what, I couldn't make him happy.
Clean house, quiet kids, good job, money in the bank... you name it.. It didn't make him happy and I was the reason he drank.
I thought for the longest time that it was true too!
I know you're seeing a Dr and want him to see a marriage councilor but you can't help someone who doesn't want help.
Especially when he has an enabling family member like his mother.
I would suggest that you find a babysitter and take some time for yourself.. without your husband around and do some soul searching yourself.
I know you have children with him and will always have ties to him but you need to think of yourself and then the children.
I say yourself first because if your mind isn't straight then you won't be able to to cope with the situation for your kids.
I was in this SAME situation for 5 years and finally got out of it.
I am now a single working mom with a NICE car, NICE house, GOOD job (hot boyfriend
There isn't a thing you're thinking that I didn't about my husband's drinking.
I too had my soon to be ex DH come home with hickeys, without his wedding band and with a woman's phone # in his wallet.
I thought it was all my fault!
That the house wasn't clean enough, that I had let myself go, that maybe the kids were getting on his nerves... you name it, I thought it!
If you EVER need to talk, please PM me. I have been in your situation not too long ago and I am willing to help you with ANYTHING you need!
Heck, you can even call me!