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Thanks for your help.
Some of us don't. And that's OK.I am glad some of you women have a man who helps around the house. I wish mine would.
Haha, good response.I'm a man-- we can do stuff
Good point!In my experience, if you have been in more than one relationship and make a blanket statement about men, the determining factor is you and not some vague attribute of a Y gene.
No way we're mad Dejolene. We're all cat lovin' family here on TCS!I hope starting this thread it didn't get all men mad at me. It just makes me mad when my husband can't help me around the house. I know men who live alone can clean up after themselves or live like slobs. Not all men are like him. I'm just tired picking up after my husband.
Again I'm sorry.
Now that IS sexist, IMO. Why can't you mow the yard and do the weeding and let him plant flowers.....if that's what you both want to do? It's not up to only you. If he's happy mowing and weeding and you're happy planting, that's fine. But he needs to have a say, too.I thin men should do some yard work like cut the grass and weed.and we should spend the money to make the yard pretty and plant flowers.
Haha! Our division of labor is a non-traditional one, I suppose. I love the idea of having plants but am not so good at the nurturing part (I always forget plants need that water stuff). Hubby does almost all the plant watering/caring. And he's far pickier about housekeeping than I am. I do the administrative stuff--run our home office, take care of finances for home and business, maintain/troubleshoot the computers. We both like to cook and have fun doing that together. It works out--neither of us feels we're doing more or harder work than the other. Except at the moment, I'm doing all the litter box cleaning for 7 cats! He had hip replacement surgery and it's tough for him to bend down. But I suspect he'll use that cane far longer than he really needs it to get out of litter cleaning duty!I thin men should do some yard work like cut the grass and weed.and we should spend the money to make the yard pretty and plant flowers.
Yes I guess thats trueNow that IS sexist, IMO. Why can't you mow the yard and do the weeding and let him plant flowers.....if that's what you both want to do? It's not up to only you. If he's happy mowing and weeding and you're happy planting, that's fine. But he needs to have a say, too.
This is a really good point. I know women who would have it no other way, and yet they are far from being woosies... They enjoy homemaking. I also know a couple of stay-at-home dads who are prepared to give their partners a chance to wholeheartedly pursue their careers. And those men enjoy homemaking.I should clarify and say that I really only think its sexist if you object to the division of labor. If women want to stay at home and take care of the house then they certainly have that right and it is not sexist if that is their choice. If you are comfortable with how labor and chores are divided in your house then I don't think there is any issue. Everyone will have something that works for them.