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Hi all. This is not necessarily a request for help (although it would be appreciated). I really just need to "vent" because my husband would think I was crazy if he knew how I was feeling. I'm pretty sure I won't be judged here. :-)
We adopted a 3 month old female orange tabby in February. Since that time, she has become my sweet girl. She would follow me around, rub up on me, cuddle with me, and play. She is the light of my life. We decided she needed a friend because she seemed quite bored and lonely at times. So last weekend, we adopted a 2 1/2 month old male gray tabby. He is a sweetheart, but he has definitely caused a huge change in the atmosphere of the house, as well as the mood of our 1st kitty.
They don't really get along. i think it may start out as playing, but it escalates to biting and scratching. So far, no physical damage has been done that I know of. The older kitty (our 1st one) is so much bigger and really dominates the new one. Again, I think she may be playing at first, but it turns into the new kitty screaming as the older one attacks. The older kitty has become aloof. She no longer cuddles with me, and prefers to be alone much of the time. She used to lay with me in bed at night, but now no longer can because the new kitty is on the bed and they can't be so close to each other. When I try to play with the older kitty, the new one comes and takes the toy, or gets in the way, which causes the older kitty to stop playing and just walk away. It breaks my heart that we no longer can do the things we used to do together because of the new addition. Maybe I am humanizing her too much and giving her emotions that she really isn't feeling. But I swear, I look at her, and just see sadness.
I guess I am just distraught that because we brought a new cat into the mix, now the old one seems no longer happy. I'm heartbroken that what we did is causing her to change. I like the new one well enough, but I have to admit I resent him for changing my relationship with the original cat. But I get that the new cat didn't ask to brought into this, so my resentment really is not appropriate. Still, I can't help the way I feel. I feel broken that I lost my sweet girl because of something I did.
Thanks for listening. Guess I just had to get it off my chest
We adopted a 3 month old female orange tabby in February. Since that time, she has become my sweet girl. She would follow me around, rub up on me, cuddle with me, and play. She is the light of my life. We decided she needed a friend because she seemed quite bored and lonely at times. So last weekend, we adopted a 2 1/2 month old male gray tabby. He is a sweetheart, but he has definitely caused a huge change in the atmosphere of the house, as well as the mood of our 1st kitty.
They don't really get along. i think it may start out as playing, but it escalates to biting and scratching. So far, no physical damage has been done that I know of. The older kitty (our 1st one) is so much bigger and really dominates the new one. Again, I think she may be playing at first, but it turns into the new kitty screaming as the older one attacks. The older kitty has become aloof. She no longer cuddles with me, and prefers to be alone much of the time. She used to lay with me in bed at night, but now no longer can because the new kitty is on the bed and they can't be so close to each other. When I try to play with the older kitty, the new one comes and takes the toy, or gets in the way, which causes the older kitty to stop playing and just walk away. It breaks my heart that we no longer can do the things we used to do together because of the new addition. Maybe I am humanizing her too much and giving her emotions that she really isn't feeling. But I swear, I look at her, and just see sadness.
I guess I am just distraught that because we brought a new cat into the mix, now the old one seems no longer happy. I'm heartbroken that what we did is causing her to change. I like the new one well enough, but I have to admit I resent him for changing my relationship with the original cat. But I get that the new cat didn't ask to brought into this, so my resentment really is not appropriate. Still, I can't help the way I feel. I feel broken that I lost my sweet girl because of something I did.
Thanks for listening. Guess I just had to get it off my chest