I just want your opinion

[pattykat]

I was wondering if it's mean to keep my cat out of my bedroom at night? Like I put him in the other room and shut my door he meows at the door for a while but usually gives up eventually I feel so bad. The reason I do this is he is a big cat and for some reason in the middle of the night he likes to stand right on top of my belly (which doesn't feel good considering I'm 9 months pregnant) I try to shew him away but he insists on that spot. And he occasionally climbs on top of the basinette that is right next to my bed and I don't want him to make a habit out of that for when the baby gets here. I know I asked for opinions but any tips would also be very helpful, I hate making my kitty feel all abandoned at night

 

[MoochNNoodles]

Our girls do not sleep with us.  DH is allergic so that has been the arrangement since day 1.  I agree that it's better to establish this boundary and keep the bassinet cat free before your baby comes.  I have 2 young children.  I did find that my girls wouldn't go in things when the kids were there as babies.  They only ever liked the Pack & Play; never the crib.  One liked the basket under the bassinet; but once they learned it was the kid's space they kept their distance.  But I didn't want cat hair, litter, etc in there either.  And then even worse; you don't want your kitty waking your baby. 

  Once they were big enough to be sleeping in their own room; we kept their doors shut so the cats wouldn't go in and wake them.  We live in a ranch style house; so it helped with some of the house noises in general too.

I would suggest making sure you sit down and give him attention every day.  Have a play session followed by treats and/or cuddles; depending on what your cat likes.  My Mooch was always on me before the kids came so it was a big adjustment for her.  Sometimes she would sit in my lap while I fed the kids their bottles; but she generally got less cuddling than before.  Now the kids are a little older and she gets more lap time again.  Noodles is less cuddly; but she missed her attention too. She started doing things like racing me to the kitchen and getting underfoot.  So focusing a little time on her was a big help too.

So to answer your question; yes it's perfectly fine!  

 

Congratulations on your impending arrival! 

 

[buddy keeper]

Cats do not like closed doors.period. everyone knows that pregnant women should not change litter box and whatever germ is in their feces is still on their butt.
I know you love your cat but your baby is more important.
maybe a little special food treat before bed might satisfy him.
besides maybe he is just getting you used to getting up in the middle of the night

 

[calicosrspecial]

We have our cats sleep wherever they want but one chooses to sleep with us. I don't think it is bad that you do not want your cat to sleep with you. Especially under the circumstances.

My advice, give him a reason to want to sleep elsewhere. A really comfortable heated bed should work. As MoochNNoodles mentions a lot of play and attention will help a lot especially right before bedtime. And just a lot of love and attention.

But the best advice I would say is a warm comfortable bed. Once he loves that he will most likely not want to sleep anywhere else.

Hope this helps.