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Hi folks,
Some weeks ago I posted a thread saying we just got a 6 months kitty and we were having difficulties bonding with her. The past week this situation improved incredibly: she now sleeps on our bedroom, lay down on the rug when we are watching tv and even seek for lap.
However the situation reverted yesterday: in the morning I was feeding her and she bite me (probably because she thought me finger was food) to a point to make me bleed. I couldn't help and totally by reflex I slapped her with the back of my hand. I know this was very wrong, but I was totally reflex and an unthought situation, I kept thinking about this and regretting all day long.
She stayed a bit away from us all day long, hiding mostly however from time to time she came to play and eat.
However the situation got worst at night: we were preparing to sleep and she was hidden behind our couch. My wife was not aware of that and pushed the couch to its correct position and pressed here between the couch and the wall. The little kitty screamed but was able to break free and went to hide under the stove. I went immediately to see if she got hurt however she was very aggressive and didn't let me pick her up. After a couple of hours she was calmer and I was able to pick her up and check that fortunately she had no bruises .
Our vet asked to keep her under observation and in case of an uncommon situation we shall take her for a radiography.
I let her be for the rest of the night to check how she would behave today. She is very away, observing us not coming very close (unless for food). I tried to take her in a moment she was hidden under the bed however she made that 'angry noises' with the ears back trying to bit and scratch me.
I am starting to think her problem is exclusively with me: she slept under my daughters bed and in the morning she was on her feet. Now she is playing near my wife on our bedroom while I am on the living room.
As I said: she only comes near me when it comes to food. For this reason I am trying to re-bond with her by giving her some treats once she does not come near me on other situations and doesn't let me come near her.
My question is: do you guys think is there any hope to gain her trust again? Would it be better to find her a new family to avoiding stressing her with my presence?
Once more: I know I was wrong and I deeply regret that. She was my little companion during these weeks once I was the one she attached the most, for this reason I care i lot for her and I am so sad about this situation.
If the best for her is another family, I'll do that.
Some weeks ago I posted a thread saying we just got a 6 months kitty and we were having difficulties bonding with her. The past week this situation improved incredibly: she now sleeps on our bedroom, lay down on the rug when we are watching tv and even seek for lap.
However the situation reverted yesterday: in the morning I was feeding her and she bite me (probably because she thought me finger was food) to a point to make me bleed. I couldn't help and totally by reflex I slapped her with the back of my hand. I know this was very wrong, but I was totally reflex and an unthought situation, I kept thinking about this and regretting all day long.
She stayed a bit away from us all day long, hiding mostly however from time to time she came to play and eat.
However the situation got worst at night: we were preparing to sleep and she was hidden behind our couch. My wife was not aware of that and pushed the couch to its correct position and pressed here between the couch and the wall. The little kitty screamed but was able to break free and went to hide under the stove. I went immediately to see if she got hurt however she was very aggressive and didn't let me pick her up. After a couple of hours she was calmer and I was able to pick her up and check that fortunately she had no bruises .
Our vet asked to keep her under observation and in case of an uncommon situation we shall take her for a radiography.
I let her be for the rest of the night to check how she would behave today. She is very away, observing us not coming very close (unless for food). I tried to take her in a moment she was hidden under the bed however she made that 'angry noises' with the ears back trying to bit and scratch me.
I am starting to think her problem is exclusively with me: she slept under my daughters bed and in the morning she was on her feet. Now she is playing near my wife on our bedroom while I am on the living room.
As I said: she only comes near me when it comes to food. For this reason I am trying to re-bond with her by giving her some treats once she does not come near me on other situations and doesn't let me come near her.
My question is: do you guys think is there any hope to gain her trust again? Would it be better to find her a new family to avoiding stressing her with my presence?
Once more: I know I was wrong and I deeply regret that. She was my little companion during these weeks once I was the one she attached the most, for this reason I care i lot for her and I am so sad about this situation.
If the best for her is another family, I'll do that.