PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASE help me.
My cat is a female, husband is a male.
Cat is 9 years old, husband is 26.
My cat is neutered...husband is the opposite of that.
Husband is an engineer, cat is a urine factory.and I am a urine cleaning slave
One of them is fat and furry...Ill let u guess which one.
This is what happens on a nearly daily basis.
My husband leaves one of his possessions on the floor, couch, bed, or other place easily accessible by my cat.
My husband goes to work. I run errands or clean or do art...and try to keep an eye on the cat...but I have obviously failed at this......
My husband comes home and picks up his possession....this has ranged from baseball cap to graduation outfit to business shirt, bookbags, blankets and sheets (usually a garment but not necessarily..always HIS though, never mine.) and finds in doused in the worst smelling pee ever...somehow it smells worse than what ever she puts in the litter box.
Then my husband gets angry and chases her around the house , stomps the floor where she is sitting...picks her up by the scruff of her neck and scolds her like a child...then she gets all submissive and runs and hides and curls up underneath the bookcase..
Then he feels guilty for yelling at her and gives her tuna fish with tuna fish water...the people version ...her favorite.
Then she purrs and he pets her.
Sometimes when he pets her she gets um, well, sexual...she sticks her ass in his face and basically, well. bends over. and "presents" herself. She does not do this when I pet her. Then when he is on the computer, she will go and lay down at his feet and wiggle her body and try to get his attention.
They have a very dysfunctional, emotional blackmail filled, passive aggressive, pain and pleasure sort of hell that I try to stay out of....reminds me too much of one of my X boyfriends..
Coincidentally...she also would pee on that X boyfriends stuff too...infact one time he was on the couch and she hopped up on his lap and peed right on his lap..
Now when I have lived alone, this cat has not peed on anything of mine, except, one incident where she peed on leather boots...but I thought maybe that was because they smelled like a dead animal to her...not to mention my X boyfriend was the one who bought them for me and he had them in his car.....
I am certainly not a clean freak...my underwear is often on the floor for a long enough stretch of time for her to pee, and then some.............so are some of my silk blouses on occasion....so is a authentic lambswool Persian rug from my mom which I was sure she would defile but did not.
I have come to the conclusion that either. She hates men. or has a love hate relationship with men. Or she just thinks that my husband who sweats quite a bit smells groovy and would smell even better with some of her stank on him.
Either way I am looking to end the insanity in this house....I would prefer a solution which does not result in my giving away my cat or my husband.
and all the advice I have read involves spraying citrus smelling stuff or putting foil around, and my husband wants none of that....on his clothing or personage.
All advice though, is of course, very welcomed!!!!!!!!!
My cat is a female, husband is a male.
Cat is 9 years old, husband is 26.
My cat is neutered...husband is the opposite of that.
Husband is an engineer, cat is a urine factory.and I am a urine cleaning slave
One of them is fat and furry...Ill let u guess which one.
This is what happens on a nearly daily basis.
My husband leaves one of his possessions on the floor, couch, bed, or other place easily accessible by my cat.
My husband goes to work. I run errands or clean or do art...and try to keep an eye on the cat...but I have obviously failed at this......
My husband comes home and picks up his possession....this has ranged from baseball cap to graduation outfit to business shirt, bookbags, blankets and sheets (usually a garment but not necessarily..always HIS though, never mine.) and finds in doused in the worst smelling pee ever...somehow it smells worse than what ever she puts in the litter box.
Then my husband gets angry and chases her around the house , stomps the floor where she is sitting...picks her up by the scruff of her neck and scolds her like a child...then she gets all submissive and runs and hides and curls up underneath the bookcase..
Then he feels guilty for yelling at her and gives her tuna fish with tuna fish water...the people version ...her favorite.
Then she purrs and he pets her.
Sometimes when he pets her she gets um, well, sexual...she sticks her ass in his face and basically, well. bends over. and "presents" herself. She does not do this when I pet her. Then when he is on the computer, she will go and lay down at his feet and wiggle her body and try to get his attention.
They have a very dysfunctional, emotional blackmail filled, passive aggressive, pain and pleasure sort of hell that I try to stay out of....reminds me too much of one of my X boyfriends..
Coincidentally...she also would pee on that X boyfriends stuff too...infact one time he was on the couch and she hopped up on his lap and peed right on his lap..
Now when I have lived alone, this cat has not peed on anything of mine, except, one incident where she peed on leather boots...but I thought maybe that was because they smelled like a dead animal to her...not to mention my X boyfriend was the one who bought them for me and he had them in his car.....
I am certainly not a clean freak...my underwear is often on the floor for a long enough stretch of time for her to pee, and then some.............so are some of my silk blouses on occasion....so is a authentic lambswool Persian rug from my mom which I was sure she would defile but did not.
I have come to the conclusion that either. She hates men. or has a love hate relationship with men. Or she just thinks that my husband who sweats quite a bit smells groovy and would smell even better with some of her stank on him.
Either way I am looking to end the insanity in this house....I would prefer a solution which does not result in my giving away my cat or my husband.
and all the advice I have read involves spraying citrus smelling stuff or putting foil around, and my husband wants none of that....on his clothing or personage.
All advice though, is of course, very welcomed!!!!!!!!!