Ok. so my (ex) best friend & i met thru my boyfriends friend Shawn. they had been bf/gf for a long time. soon we became bffs. after about a year, they broke up, which i was kind of upset about. but her and i remained friends of course. she continued to live with him for about a month after the break up. after that she moved out, & i was shocked to hear the day she moved out she had a new bf, which happens to be shawns ex-step brother which i think is really messed up. anyway. she wound up getting pregnant soon afterward, & the day she found out she told me & of course i was very excited for her. i said im so happy for you & i cant wait to be Aunt Crystal. she said well your going to be more than "aunt crystal" i want u to be godmom. of course i was so0o excited! well, a couple weeks later she lost the baby. i felt horrible but she was extremely depressed about the whole thing. i tried to make her feel better but with a situation like that there really isnt much u can do to make someone feel better after that. after that she kept saying, "when i get pregnant again your still gunna b godmom right?" & i always said yes that i couldnt wait. well, she is 5 months pregnant now, & weve been talking about me being godmom all this time & i couldnt wait bc i knew i would b such a good god mother( im already godmom to my bfs sisters son)
well, i woke up on monday to a text message on my phone from her, saying the last thing i expected. "well this weekend i was talking to my mom & i think it would be better if i make my sister godmom bc she is my sister & your already godmom to robbie & she isnt to anyone so i thought it would be nice" she stated she understood if i was mad. but i was more than mad, i was furious & so upset i couldnt stop myself, & the tears kept coming. i wrote her back telling her how messed up it was to take something like that from her bff, knowing how excited i was about it, also saying she was planning on having more kids & to make her sister godmom to her next baby, & just bc i already have a godson doesnt mean i cant have more godchildren. in the heat of the moment i told her i didnt wanna be her friend anymore bc of that. & this is someone ive been friends with for a long time & have never had an arguement with her. i completely meant the statement that i didnt wanna b her friend too unless she changed her mind about it which is what i was hoping for. well she responded saying that it was her sister & she would rather her sister b godmom, & it was her descision, her baby, & she would do what she wanted & that her mind was made up. she said she was hoping i would understand but if i couldnt thats how it would b. ever since she has been with this new guy she hasnt been coming over as much, when she used to come ove EVERY SINGLE DAY, & lately its been more like 1x a week if that. her bf will sit outside my house or drive by a million times calling her again n again begging her to leave & actually CRYING cuz she is with me. the way i look at it is shes been friends with me longer than she has been with him so i thought if she was gunna pick someone she would pick me. WRONG!! & i have a strong feeling that he is the cause of her changing her mind. she worships him & does everything he says even though i tried to get her to leave him bc the way he acts its like hes psychotic, & was actually the cause of her first miscarriage, from stressing her out for her coming here to hang out w/ me when shawn (the ex) would be here too. ive been thinking about her ever since & im really sad i broke off our friendship. but im the type of person who forgives very easily, & because of that ppl tend to walk all over me all the time. i refuse to let ANYONE (even her) get away with it anymore. i really do believe it is her choice, but her choice was me, & all of a sudden that changes, out of nowhere, & something like that isnt something u just change for NO REASON. when she told me before she would never change that(bfs sis wanted to b godmom, but she told me that she would never change godmoms)
Sorry this is so long but i wanted to tell everything so you all would understand the situation. Do u guys think i over reacted to this? or would you all do the same?
well, i woke up on monday to a text message on my phone from her, saying the last thing i expected. "well this weekend i was talking to my mom & i think it would be better if i make my sister godmom bc she is my sister & your already godmom to robbie & she isnt to anyone so i thought it would be nice" she stated she understood if i was mad. but i was more than mad, i was furious & so upset i couldnt stop myself, & the tears kept coming. i wrote her back telling her how messed up it was to take something like that from her bff, knowing how excited i was about it, also saying she was planning on having more kids & to make her sister godmom to her next baby, & just bc i already have a godson doesnt mean i cant have more godchildren. in the heat of the moment i told her i didnt wanna be her friend anymore bc of that. & this is someone ive been friends with for a long time & have never had an arguement with her. i completely meant the statement that i didnt wanna b her friend too unless she changed her mind about it which is what i was hoping for. well she responded saying that it was her sister & she would rather her sister b godmom, & it was her descision, her baby, & she would do what she wanted & that her mind was made up. she said she was hoping i would understand but if i couldnt thats how it would b. ever since she has been with this new guy she hasnt been coming over as much, when she used to come ove EVERY SINGLE DAY, & lately its been more like 1x a week if that. her bf will sit outside my house or drive by a million times calling her again n again begging her to leave & actually CRYING cuz she is with me. the way i look at it is shes been friends with me longer than she has been with him so i thought if she was gunna pick someone she would pick me. WRONG!! & i have a strong feeling that he is the cause of her changing her mind. she worships him & does everything he says even though i tried to get her to leave him bc the way he acts its like hes psychotic, & was actually the cause of her first miscarriage, from stressing her out for her coming here to hang out w/ me when shawn (the ex) would be here too. ive been thinking about her ever since & im really sad i broke off our friendship. but im the type of person who forgives very easily, & because of that ppl tend to walk all over me all the time. i refuse to let ANYONE (even her) get away with it anymore. i really do believe it is her choice, but her choice was me, & all of a sudden that changes, out of nowhere, & something like that isnt something u just change for NO REASON. when she told me before she would never change that(bfs sis wanted to b godmom, but she told me that she would never change godmoms)
Sorry this is so long but i wanted to tell everything so you all would understand the situation. Do u guys think i over reacted to this? or would you all do the same?