My DD told me today that her boyfriend of 1 month had given her a promise ring. I asked her what she thought it meant (after I took several deep breaths to compose myself). She wasn't really sure, maybe it just meant that they really like each other. She said she'd told him that he needed to slow down, that things were going too fast between them---but she took the ring anyway. They haven't used the "L" word yet, either.
DD is 20, old enough to choose who she wants to date. Of course, in August she was planning her honeymoon with a different guywho it turned out lied to her constantly but that's another story. We haven't met this boy yet and haven't had any desire to meet him. At age 23 he has 4 alcohol related arrests (including 2 DUIs) and has gone thru a court ordered alcohol treatment program. There's also the fact that DD lied to me repeatedly about dating him for the first couple of weeks. Her Dad and I have both tried to tell her that while we have major concerns about a guy with that many arrests, it's really her attitude and her lying that have totally put us off meeting him for now.
The boyfriend's Mom is another story that I could use some input on, as well. He went with his last girlfriend for over a year (no promise ring involved, as far as DD knows). His Mom has pics of this girl and her son all over her facebook page, not just a pic taken here or there, but shot after shot after shot in the same locale, as if she had to capture every movement on film. Then there are the cute little captions---isn't she lovely, look at my son nibbling on her neck, why isn't she paying attention to my son in this pic, she's a keeper, my son made her laugh..... it goes on and on. It creeps me out big time, almost as if she was obsessed with her son's girlfriend.
I've actually asked DD to avoid this woman for now, at least until she knows her boyfriend better. She might be the nicest woman in the world, altho' she's in one pic with her son and past girlfriend and has captioned herself as "Mommy Dearest". YIkes.
So, isn't a month a little soon for a promise ring? Is the Mom overly involved in her son's life (no, he's not an only child). Am I creeped out for nothing?
I've had a bad feeling about DD dating this boy since I learned about it, and I'm not sure why. He has a good job and treats her very well; I just have a hinky feeling about it all, and my DH agrees that something just isn't right.
I guess I'd just like to know if this family sounds normal and we're the ones with the problem. Any thoughts?
DD is 20, old enough to choose who she wants to date. Of course, in August she was planning her honeymoon with a different guywho it turned out lied to her constantly but that's another story. We haven't met this boy yet and haven't had any desire to meet him. At age 23 he has 4 alcohol related arrests (including 2 DUIs) and has gone thru a court ordered alcohol treatment program. There's also the fact that DD lied to me repeatedly about dating him for the first couple of weeks. Her Dad and I have both tried to tell her that while we have major concerns about a guy with that many arrests, it's really her attitude and her lying that have totally put us off meeting him for now.
The boyfriend's Mom is another story that I could use some input on, as well. He went with his last girlfriend for over a year (no promise ring involved, as far as DD knows). His Mom has pics of this girl and her son all over her facebook page, not just a pic taken here or there, but shot after shot after shot in the same locale, as if she had to capture every movement on film. Then there are the cute little captions---isn't she lovely, look at my son nibbling on her neck, why isn't she paying attention to my son in this pic, she's a keeper, my son made her laugh..... it goes on and on. It creeps me out big time, almost as if she was obsessed with her son's girlfriend.
I've actually asked DD to avoid this woman for now, at least until she knows her boyfriend better. She might be the nicest woman in the world, altho' she's in one pic with her son and past girlfriend and has captioned herself as "Mommy Dearest". YIkes.
So, isn't a month a little soon for a promise ring? Is the Mom overly involved in her son's life (no, he's not an only child). Am I creeped out for nothing?
I've had a bad feeling about DD dating this boy since I learned about it, and I'm not sure why. He has a good job and treats her very well; I just have a hinky feeling about it all, and my DH agrees that something just isn't right.
I guess I'd just like to know if this family sounds normal and we're the ones with the problem. Any thoughts?